Guilt & humiliation
HOST
You've done nothing wrong. Everything's guilty. You're walking around, you make commitments, you make obligations you say yes to. You say yes to parties, you say yes to friends.
Coming from a complete place of guilt, self pity and feeling less than. And one thing you have to understand is that most people have to feel greater than just to feel equal to. I'll say that again, most people have to feel greater than just to feel equal to their peers. And this is, this is absolutely the greatest hurdle and greatest obstacle to personal growth is until you can ferret this out, until you can root this out and walk around and stop feeling guilty, start taking up more space, start making waves, start making other feel uncomfortable.
There's zero percent chance that you can make any inroads or pave any progress for yourself because everything's just guilty. You're taught that your existence is meaningless, you're worthless. We're on a spinning ball of nothing in a abyss on this planet. Or insignificant.
All those models of the universe are inaccurate. You have to make yourself the central party command structure. You have to. You have to position yourself and self image yourself as someone important even when you're not.
And you cannot roam around this earth coming from a place of feeling less than all the time because it becomes a lifestyle. It permeates every aspect, every fiber of your being. You're coming from a place of guilt and remorse even when you've done nothing wrong. Why are you remorseful?
To get what you want. To get what you deserve. And most dudes are walking around in this permanent dented state. You can see it in their posture.
People wear their dents, they wear their damage in the way that they walk. Slouched over, slumped over, arms dangling, afraid to say excuse me, afraid to make a wave in a line. Like you're just afraid to move through time and space, face with some gusto, with some flare. And I'm not talking about doing it in a douchebag way.
I'm just saying that you have to make yourself the most important character in your life. And you can't capitulate and cowtow and constantly bend the knee and come from a place of guilt. Morality that wears you down, destroys your psyche, deteriorates your spirit. And the other component to this is fear of humiliation.
Most are terrified and humiliated and embarrassed to actually get what they want. They're embarrassed to let a girl know that they find them attractive. They're embarrassed to get the kind of girl that they want. So they settle.
They take threes, twos, ones. They take the Trash off of Tinder because ultimately they're so fucking embarrassed to actually have the life that they want. So they don't want anybody to know because it's safe. It's safe.
If you don't go after what you want and you don't have the kind of business that you want, you don't have the kind of females that you want, you don't have the kind of friends you want, you're in a safety zone. There's nothing at risk. You're not risking your heart. Your heart's not on your sleeve.
You can fail a million times. Those people can leave you, the girls can treat you like your friends, can treat you like you. You're not going to give a. Because you're not in control of the situation.
You're not actually achieving what you want. So you're the life cycle of your relationships, the shelf life is extremely minuscule. People come and go out of your life because you're not. You don't have any standards.
One thing you have to understand is most people would rather curl up in a ball than. And die and be miserable in isolation, then actually risk the experience of being rejected, humiliated or embarrassed. Death is truly a greater option for most people than actually being truly humiliated. And when I say humiliated, I mean really putting your balls on the line and really wearing your heart on your sleeve and going after something you want and being rejected, that is a very, very difficult thing to face.
That's why most people aren't going for it. That's why most people don't go for what they want in life because they don't want that self reflection. If they get rejected, it's a complete reflection of their spirit and they have to look in the mirror and figure out why they can't get what they deserve. So they'd rather isolate, be morose, be languid and be in a catatonic state rather than put their balls out there.
So if you can figure these two components out and gut from your core the, the idea that you, that your existence is one of guilt and your fear of humiliation, there's absolutely no creature, beast or force on this planet that can stop you. If you can figure those two components out, that's just a fact. You take away your guilt and you take away your fear of humiliation, that you're, you're on God mode. You can run, you can treat this world like a playground and you can have as much fun out there as you desire.
That's all I wanted to say. I'm not taking questions this morning. I love you all.