Surviving Setbacks
HOST
And I'm going to give you an illustration of what it's like to own your identity and carve out this ironclad core. So that whatever external forces, whatever pressures, whatever rejections, whatever disappointments, whatever sorrows, whatever griefs, whatever bereavements that you go through, it's very easy to sustain any kind of environmental problem pressure that comes your way. Because you have spent years forming an identity that cannot be destroyed. Meaning no matter what happens on the periphery of your life, you have designed yourself to be impenetrable by these outside influences.
And how you do that and how you find your core and identity comes not from acting by impulse. Because impulse, impulse is very different than acting and moving from the spirit. And people have a difficult time differentiating the two. Impulse is degeneracy and is coming from the darker forces that haven't been integrated into your spirit, but acting from your heart.
Even when you are flying in the face of the party line of the common opinion. If you're bucking trends, if you sequence enough decisions in a row in your life to where you're living life completely on your terms, even if it causes you short term pain, you do that enough times, you will build indomitable confidence because you're moving from within. There's no outside external forces that are going to knock you off of what you know, because it's from direct experience. And I'll give you a prime example.
It doesn't matter. Win, lose or draw. It's if you're down a mil, up a mil, up five mil, down five mil, doesn't fucking matter. You still have to show up every single day and do the same shit.
It doesn't matter what you got. I don't care if you have four Bentleys, five Lambos, six houses, 100 employees. No matter how much you're winning or losing, you still have to show up and go to the gym. You still have to fucking get your nutrition on point.
You still have to fucking interface with the real world. You still have to approach women. You still have to show up. It doesn't matter where you're at, win, lose or draw, you got to do the same thing every day.
And once you can internalize that and understand it, nothing changes. Nothing changes. All of the money in the world, all the toys, all of that's just a. It's, it's, it's by proxy.
It's by proxy. It happens by accident. Oh, fell into a Lambo today. It just happened because I'm just fucking living my life, coasting.
I'm a fucking eagle flying through the sky. No one can. I'm untouchable. Sometimes I, sometimes I soar down, see what's going on.
Then I fly back up. You're just kind of floating through life, taking what comes comfy, cozy with whatever comes your way. And I'll tell you something, when you guys take losses of any sort, your first ab reaction, and this is a fucking terrible, terrible response. Your first reflex is to let your swagger decrease.
No, no, no. When you get rocked in life, the anecdote is always to double your swagger. Like your, your swagger should be increasing the more losses you sustain because you just know you're going to get it back. It's literally, the formula is so simple.
You lose money, you simply make it back. Money comes and goes. But a lot of you have huge mood fluctuations based on what's in your bank account. Because you're externally oriented, you have zero fucking identity.
And you're using these external things as drugs. It's a fucking drug. It takes away feelings and emotions. That's why you're so fudgeing dependent on the market.
Whatever the market's doing dictates your mood, dictates your, your next fucking move. It's because it's a fucking drug. When you have the money, you're numb. When you have all the fucking wealth and all the shit you want, you're numb to.
You're numb to reality. And when you don't have it, all the insecurities, everything you've been putting masking tape over comes to the fore. And then what? You got nothing to fall back on.
That's why I always tell you, the naked man, literally, with, without technology, without, without gimmicks, without props, is, is the most powerful man you should be training in a state to where you don't need any kind of gimmickry to get what you want. And, and you see, this example extrapolates across the board. Go to any local gym, any fucking local gym and look, who's using all the equipment, who's coping, who's using the, the weight, the weight belt, who's got the gloves on, who's got the nicest kicks, who's got the knee sleeves, the
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weak,
HOST
the weak mother. The weakest people in the gym are the ones with all the high tech gear, all the bells and whistles. And the badass are just in their training, barefoot, don't matter. No, no water, no supplements.
Just in their training, building their spirit. And that example translates across the board. You are cool as a fan when you sustain loss, when you know who you are, because you know it's inevitable you're going to get it back. And this segues into my next point, which I think a lot of guys are suffering from.
And it's unconscious. You have to understand that most people are living under a paradigm of meeting invisible quotas. People have all these fake quotas and impressures on them. Like I have to make 10k a month, I have to have a new bitch every other night.
I have to, I gotta go fucking cold approach women, dude. That is 100% the opposite of living in your true identity. Because every real motherfucker I know, including myself, I go months at a time where I don't want to talk to a because I don't fucking want to. I just want to be left alone.
And then guess what? One morning I wake up and I decide that I want one and I just go get it. That's how the game really works at the highest levels. When you genuinely want something, you just go get it.
There's no fake pressure. I don't feel any peer pressure. I don't feel like I have to meet quotas. When I want something, I'm just gonna go get it.
And I'm relentless. And that goes with money. I can be laying out on my patio like a lion under the sun, just chilling and then I'll have a visualization of something that I want. And I immediately implement it and go get it.
And my life is a constant cycle of hunting, resting, hunting, resting. Because that's just who I am. That's what the voice in my head tells me to do. So all these fake pressures of you forcing everything in your life feeling like, oh, that chick looked at me.
I have to go cold approach. Even though you know you're going to get your, your, your head knocked off, all of that's nonsense. It's all nonsense because it's not coming from a genuine place. I am very good and very fine tuned and honed at what I genuinely want.
And here's the thing, a lot of you are torturing yourself. You're torturing and punishing yourself by getting things that you don't even want. That's the grand epiphany. Most of you are literally seeking and you're attacking goals you're going after that you don't even really want.
And it's a form of self punishment and self torture. And I said this the other night, this, it goes with exercise too. Like a lot of you guys use the gym as like using the myself Every step of the way. And that's a massive distinction.
And a lot of you guys are resisting your true desires on a daily basis. And you are in a constant battle against yourself. And you will lose. You will lose every single time.
Because it's a battle of attrition. You cannot go through this life constantly fighting yourself. It's like revving your engine with the emergency brake on. It's just never gonna happen.
At some point you truly have to identify and accept who you really are and you have to go all in on it. It doesn't matter how imperfect it is, it doesn't fucking matter. You just need that confidence that when things are not going right and you don't know what's around the corner, you just need to know that you're just going to keep walking. Baby, bring the fucking fire.
Let the fire lick at my feet. Let the pressure mount. Who gives a fuck? Because I'm not changing.
My environment can change, circumstances can change. You can strip me down to nothing and I still know who I am. I'm still gonna walk, I'm still walking forward, whether I got a limp, whether I'm missing teeth, I don't give a. I'm still walking forward because that's where that confidence comes from.
It just knows that it's gonna be okay. It's gonna be okay because I'm gonna triple down on myself and I don't give a what kind of short term destruction or what kind of elements are thrown my way that are going to throw me off kilter. I'm gonna stay focused on that and nothing can take. And you guys are defeated way too easily.
That's the other thing. You get rejected by a chick, you lose some money, now you're just defeated and you just let life. No, no. I literally will never ever let money, women, things, material, ever defeat me.
It's not happening. I'm gonna come back with a fucking vengeance and become a much better human being. And I'm gonna double my workload because I just refuse to go down in flames from, in from external circumstances. I can deal with it if it's, if it's my fault.
If I'm putting in the work and I'm not getting what I want. That is so much easier to tolerate and stomach than anything else because it all reflects back on me and that's what I want. That's ultimately the only thing I give a fuck about is that I am fully responsible for everything that happens in my life. And that comes from that omniscient point of view.
That I was talking about on Twitter. Living life from the omniscient point of view. You're outside of everything. You're extra environmental.
You are standing outside of every situation, looking in. It's a, it's a, it's a way of full blown detachment which I think is the masculine imperative. Because you got to understand we talk about the inverted male, we talk about the inverted female. There's also some intangibles that have been inverted in this society and logic is one of them.
I've been thinking about this yesterday. Logic and real rational are very feminine, very feminine and irrational. People who embrace chaos and people who have no problem just rolling with the punches. That's the new masculine imperative.
Logic and reason. Yeah, it's great when you're building roads, bridges and airplanes, but it's horrific in the context of social interactions because you can't take anything at face value anymore. In this world you could 30 years ago. People said what they were and for the most part it was probably true.
Now you got to dig for the answers. You got to look under the epistemic merc and you got to wade through the bog in order to get real answers. Because nothing is what it seems. You can't trust your eyes in 2022, you got to have eyes in the back of your head.
You got to have eyes in your cerebellum. You got to be able to discern at a much higher level in order to get a grip over this reality you take at face value. You're gonna get can promise you that. And the way that you fine tune that discernment is through embracing.
When you do get, when life does rock you and kick your teeth in. Those are the loneliest moments in existence. And those are the moments that you have to hold on to the most. It's the loneliness that a man builds his identity and that loneliness when you're not looking for someone else to lean on.
How about you cry on your own fucking shoulder for a change? How about you rely on yourself when shit doesn't go right? Why are you always getting on the phone asking other motherfuckers for advice, crying about your pithy little problems? Whatever happened to just fucking leaning on your own back or having your own back?
That's true power. That's true to power. That's how you really get that confidence. But nobody wants to sit through the loneliness.
No one wants to sit through it because that's when the emotions are stinging you. That's when all those psychic forces, the shadow that I talk about, that's where that. That's the integration process. But before any of those emotions or thoughts can even bubble up, can even bubble up, you shoot them out of the sky.
You shoot them out of the sky before they can be integrated. Because you don't want to feel a thing. You just want to go through this existence as numb and as possible. And that's not the way, because you're gonna blunt.
You're gonna blunt your experience to the point where you're not going to have discernment of what's really going on. You have to. Anybody who's very insightful, anybody who has excellent advice for other people, the answer to why they have that capability is so obvious. It's because they have the ability to visualize what it would be like if they were in that position.
Because they've journeyed through their own humanity and they've journeyed through their own muck so many times that once you've done that, you pretty much have seen every psychic force that's available. There's no secrets. Nothing surprises you anymore. You've seen it all.
But you have to be willing to experience those moments of hardship and pain without numbing them, without turning to porn, without self medicating, without playing video games, without flipping through your fucking phone. The gnawing loneliness. Some of those lonely nights I have had some of the loneliest nights of my life after getting absolutely slaughtered in ventures that I've gone in. And I knew that those were the fucking moments that were going to make me.
Those were the moments that were going to give me that lifetime strength that all of us are in search of. Those moments when you can just hang on for fucking dear life and you know you got your back. I didn't need to make a phone call. I didn't need to make a peep.
I didn't need to diffuse that energy, put it on someone else. I didn't need to project. I didn't. I didn't need to diffuse the energy.
I embraced that. And you use it as fuel when you wake up the next day and you get right back in attack mode. No big deal, baby. Down a mill, up a mill.
Lose, winner, draw. I'm still showing up. I still got to fucking train. I still got to lift weights.
I still got to be a good father. I still got to be a good friend. I still got to show up for the motherfuckers who are depending on me. Regardless of what's going on in my life.
It doesn't fucking matter. You have to do the same shit day in, day out, you have to build some kind of routine, because that's your sanctuary. When shit's not going right, when shit's not going right, you have to jump right back into that routine. Because.
Because that routine puts everything in perspective and it gives you some control over your life. It makes you an imposer, it makes you an inflictor. Men are inflictors. You are designed to inflict onto the world.
Not to be inflicted upon, not to be a fucking reactor, but an actor. And you just fucking march forward and it doesn't matter what comes your way. It's all. And you can't play the game at the highest levels until you understand this, until you have that iron core and you know who you are and you will stick by your decisions no matter how many people tell you're crazy, no matter how many times you've been knocked down.
If you can actually stick to what you know eventually will bring you to salvation, then you can start playing the game at the funnest, highest levels because nothing matters. Who gives a fuck if the chick leaves you? She didn't bring anything to the table anyway. Who gives a fuck if I lost 2 mil?
I'm just going to go make 4 next month. That's actually how it works. That's the actual magic behind life is. Then you can go high stakes on everything, raise the stakes, because what do I care if I get blown out?
I'm just gonna come back the next time stronger. And I'm 34, and I'm telling you this, in your 20s, you can run circ. You can do this day in, day out. It'll give you a better education than Oxford.
But one thing also, and I've been seeing this a lot on Twitter, a lot of you, you youngsters, quote, unquote youngsters who are in your early 20s, I. I hate to break it to you, but that's not young, like, at all. Like, if you're 22 years old, you're not a young man, you're a full grown man. And you can clearly see the time stream is slowly being pushed back.
You got that? Are literally convinced that being 30 now is like when the game begins. No, no, no, no. The game really started beginning when you were like, 14, 15, let's call a spade a spade.
And a lot of you guys are coping really hard and pretending like being 21 is, like, still party time. And you got time. You don't have time. You don't have time.
You're on the clock now and you're building these habits and patterns that are going to come back to haunt you big time if you don't figure this out. Now it.
CALLER 3
The.
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The clock is not magically going to be. Going to be gentle and kind to you as you get older, because a lot of you really do believe you're just going to wake up a man one day. You think if you can just run out the clock and beat the clock and dribble the basketball out without actually making moves or putting up shots, if you just dribble the ball long enough that one day magically, all your insecurities, all your flaws, everything that you hate about yourself is just going to vanish. And you're just going to wake up a man because you hit 30, and I'm here to tell you it's the exact opposite that has a compounding effect and will absolutely ravage your soul.
You will wake up 30 and you will be a mess. You will be a fucking mess. So you. You don't have time.
You're not a young man when you're 20 years old. You're just not. You're just not. And we have to break these illusions and start being really fucking real about our, our situations because these precautions that you're taking, every precaution that you take.
Scared about your money, scared about getting hurt. Here skit. You are relying on something outside of yourself for security. And it's a major, major cardinal sin.
As a man. It's a major cardinal sin because you want to be the guy. You want to be the guy even if you're not who, when it all gets taken from you or the deck gets reshuffled or the croupy, hey swipes your chips off the table. You want to be the guy who can laugh about it.
That's the kind of guy you want to be. You want to be able to laugh at whatever misfortune comes your way because you just know it's. It's laughable because you just know it's coming back. It's just.
It just has to. It's just going to come back because you're just going to show up every day and still doing what you're doing. You're not going to recoil, you're not going to retreat. You're not going to hunt your shoulders and surrender.
No, no, no. You're going to redouble your efforts. And that's what the game is all about right there. It's all about knowing that no situation that you're in is irrecoverable.
There is a way of dealing with everything I don't give a. If you're sentenced to 20 years in prison. There's a way of dealing with that. I don't give a.
If you. If. If I.
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You.
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You lose an arm. There is a psychological way of dealing with every possible scenario in this life. And once you can really understand that, you're unstoppable, because it's all in the mind. It's all in the mind.
It has nothing to do with your muscles. The mindset that I'm talking about is way more rare than the muscles. The muscles are common. Let's get real.
Anybody can go to the gym and get themselves in shape, but how many men can actually carve out a space of happiness and contentment when nothing is going right? When nothing is going right and the odds are against you, and you can still wake up and crack a grin. The Glasgow grin, Glasgow smile. And you can still.
CALLER 5
Because.
HOST
Because you just know that you're gonna carve out a little bit. Everybody knows the world is. Let's get real. Everyone knows the.
That the world is. But the real are finding ways to carve out happiness for themselves in spite of that. And that's the mission, and that's the masculine imperative. It's not in your cozy little metrics of life, logic and reason.
It's in the irrational side. It's in the barbaric, uncivilized nature that you are scared to tap into. That's where all the magic happens, because that's where the integration starts. You can't be integrated when you're wearing these masks, when you're playing a role with your boss or you're playing a role with your wife, you have to destroy and penetrate the masks first and drill down to the bottom of what's really going on and who you really are.
And you have to start entertaining those desires so that you can actually become the person that you want to be. And the kind of man that I'm talking about, the man who is completely cool, calm, and collected no matter what's coming his way. That's the whole game. And anybody trying to take you off that game, it's a ruse.
It's a shell game, and you're gonna get clipped. I'm gonna take a couple questions. Salman, what's up?
CALLER 1
Hey, what's happening, brute? I just want to say I agree with everything you're saying. Honestly, you hit the nail on the head. Second of all, I want to say that I really, really love your content, man.
I was. I was actually looking at your tweets when hit the fan with me. And I was 25. I'm 27 now, and I had to really change my.
So your tweets really helped me. I think for younger people, a lot of younger people, too, I think they need to understand that. That they need to get moving, they need to get in action. I think a lot of these people are telling them to, you know, to play it safe, that you're young, enjoy your younger years, enjoy your college years, and you hit the nail on the head that time flies really fast, and before you know it, you're no longer this college kid, you're no longer this, you know, young man that, you know, everyone sees potential in, because after 25, potential is done.
You know, they want to see results. And then people start resenting you. Then you start listening to other people. So you need to tap into the barbaric side.
And what I did was I started taking on ultra marathons and marathons myself, started opening my own business, and that helped me a lot. And people thought I was psycho, and I'm crazy. And then when I started realizing that, okay, this is where it's at, people think that I'm that way because, you know, I'm in the right path. So I think you hit the nail on the head.
And I also want to say that it's never too late as well. So people are listening to this who are in their 30s, and think that, you know, it's not. It's too late for me now. It's never too late, but you have to attack it.
You have to wake up and say, this is what I'm supposed to do. Regardless of how I feel when I wake up, I have to attack the day, and I have to do the best I can, you know, regardless of. Of the outcome. The outcome will take care of itself, but you just have to keep going every day.
HOST
That's it. Brother, you sound just like my protege.
CALLER 2
Yeah.
HOST
Appreciate it.
CALLER 6
Yeah.
CALLER 1
Thanks. Thanks for letting me speak.
HOST
Of course. Ali, talk to us. I can't hear a word, bro. I'm gonna keep it moving.
Rafay, what's going on?
CALLER 4
Yo, what's up?
HOST
Brooke?
CALLER 4
I've just dropped out of university because I didn't agree with the ideology that they were thrusting upon us. Did from work for two weeks without pay because. Had a bit of a fight. So I do agree about a lot of the stuff you said about surviving setbacks.
Like, it's just not.
HOST
We need you to speak. We need you to speak up, brother.
CALLER 6
Sorry.
CALLER 4
Sorry. So for anyone who didn't get that, I'VE been suspended off work for two weeks without pay. And I just dropped out of university because I didn't agree with a lot of the leftist ideology that there were that, you know, put upon us. So I just quit.
And my parents are most likely going to kick me out the house for that. So I'm living currently in accommodation. So I do agree with a lot of what you said, is that you need to sort of get into a more primitive mindset of like, this. Do not let it destroy you and just come back, like, I have 50 pound to my name for the rest of the month.
But, you know, rather than cry about it or whatever, I'm just gonna go out and see what I can do to make the most money for the remainder of the month. And like, you know, now I have more time to go to the gym and do whatever it is I need to do.
HOST
So I'm not exactly.
CALLER 4
Now I'm not too stressed out. Like, my girlfriend, she's obviously like telling me, oh, you know, what you gonna do now? Now you have no career path. So what it.
I have so much out there to do and I, I feel more free now than anything else. Like, I feel like I can do anything rather than go out for a set career path. And that's a lot to do with what I read from you. Like, I, I would be crumbling into a ball right now, but because I know who I am and I know what I can do, this does not affect me slightly.
HOST
That's it, man. That's the whole game. And that, that leads me to my next point, which I'm glad you brought up, is that most people don't understand that they're being guided under the fist of these fake authority figures. These teachers, these docents, these, these, these structures are so fake.
When I got fired from my first job when I was 18, the first epiphany that I had was you. You don't. You live through it. When you, when you quit or you get fired and you realize how fake all this authority is.
Like when you show Freddy Krueger that you're not afraid, he disappears. And so like when I, when, when I got fired and my, in my bot, like, I thought that my life was over because my boss was this fake authority figure. And then once you fucking walk out, you realize how, just it's all stilted. It's all a mirage.
CALLER 7
Yeah.
HOST
Like, everything's for the taking, man. Everything's up for grabs in 2022. It's just that simple. Like, we're, we're In a reach.
We're in a reset right now. Crypto's about to tank. Every market's about to be. It's a great.
It's a restart. Everything's restarting. So get liquid, get. Get as powerful and strong as you as possible now, because the opportunities to absolutely make wealth are coming.
So now's the time. Now's the time. There's no more time to. Around like that.
Those days are over. 2016, 2017, it was cool to lounge in a beach chair in Southern California on a rooftop pool. That was cool. Not cool anymore. Like, the.
The clock is. Is moving.
CALLER 4
Understood? Understood.
HOST
Yeah, I'm gonna. I'm gonna. I'm gonna take another question, man, but I appreciate it.
CALLER 1
Sure thing.
CALLER 4
Thank you.
HOST
We got the Colonel Bird.
CALLER 2
What's going on?
HOST
Big fan here. What's going on?
CALLER 3
So anyway, I have a friend, and
HOST
he had been dating this girl for several years, just speaking of setbacks. And it's come to light now that she's been banging his roommate for a large portion of that time. How do you suggest bouncing back from that,
CALLER 5
Man?
HOST
Here's the thing with that. That's what that is, man, is. And. And nobody can convince me otherwise.
That's. That's a very, very pernicious form of denial. I. I don't believe for one second that any man on earth actually can exist in a situation like that and not actually know what's going on.
Like, you're getting. You're getting tingles, you're getting all sorts of vibes internally that you know that you're getting cheated. There's no way that these guys are actually existing in these situations for years. And.
And having no genuine clue that they're being cheated on.
CALLER 4
It's.
HOST
It's like the first stage of grief, and they're stuck in it of just that denial phase. They just don't want to accept it. And I just. I.
I don't buy it for a second. And so it. It, dude, it goes back perfectly with what I just said about. About integrating who you are and having that discernment and accepting hard doses of truth that is the most single most powerful tool in your arsenal is swallowing as many hard pills as you can at once.
So what? I. Maybe it was just his inability to swallow this, you know, truth pills. Of course.
Of course. Right under his nose. Of course that's what it is. It's always right under our nose.
Everything is all the answers. That's why that morbid curiosity that people have of, like, snooping through their girls phone Snooping through their profiles. That is the gayest of all time. Because if you really understand how the world works, you don't have to do jack.
You just have to be who you are and the answers will come to you. I don't have to do a thing. All the answers will be revealed. I don't got.
I don't have to snoop. I don't have to dig. It's all going to come to me. It's all gonna come to me naturally.
And a lot of guys don't understand that. And that morbid curiosity of snooping and trying to look for things always gets punished because you're always going to find what you're looking for. Always. So denial is a, is a, is a huge problem.
It's a huge problem. And, and there's. I don't give a. How inferior a man is.
There's no chance that a guy doesn't really know what's on, going, going on in that situation. Coping, coping by staying in it.
CALLER 1
They live in Disneyland is what you're trying to say.
HOST
That's rose, Rose tinted glasses. They want to protect their naivete. They want to protect their innocence. It's very dangerous.
It's very, very dangerous. And it's very childish at the same time because a lot of these guys want to be babied. They just want to be babied. And they think that some, they want to be under the care and, and, and protection of other men.
That's really what it boils down to. A lot of guys on Twitter are like this. They won't tell you this, but their behavior exhibits that. They actually just want to be baby.
They want to pat on the head and pat on the shoulder by the entire world. And we live in a jungle, man. You walk around as an adult man, trying to be an infant, people are just gonna trample you, women included. You're going to get absolutely pissed and stepped on and abused.
So thank you for the question. I'm going to keep it moving. Hassan, what's up, baby? Hassan, we can't hear you.
Yo, what's up, bro? So I got two questions. My first question is what made you
CALLER 7
get into gambling instead of things like
HOST
extreme sports such as mountain biking or something like that? And then my second question is, why do you think most people, especially young dudes, haven't got any urgency in their life? It's a good question. I've always just had a natural affinity for risk taking.
It's just kind of me again, it's kind of just me just being who I am. And listening to the voice in my head, I've always gravitated towards games of chance. I've always found that to be a very alluring part of the game. And I mean, God knows, man, I've cracked my head against the wall my whole life to figure that game out.
And it's just, I've embraced that. That's just who I am, man. Some of us are gamblers by nature and some of us are in living in denial about it. And that's just who I am.
And I, you know, I run with that till the bitter end. And then the urgency question is a really good one. I think that what it boils down to, man, is that a lot of these youngsters are under the impression that if they just like I said before, if they just wait it out and they stall that eventually, like they're waiting for an ex, they're waiting for life to smash their teeth in before they act. Like every guy wants the great epic battle.
Every guy wants to prove himself and prove that he can fight and fend for himself above, above all. And you have a lot of guys that are existing. There's none of these higher virtues. They're just.
It's a survival strategy for weak. They just want to exist under the dependence and under the thumb of other people because they know that they're never going to hit the street. But when you remove those structures yourself and you have the strength and the balls and the gall not to go rely on your parents when shit's going south, not to rely on your friends when shit's going south and you pick yourself up and you bootstrap yourself to the higher level and you get yourself out of the rut. That's ownership and responsibility which nobody seems to want to take.
So how.
CALLER 3
Yeah, that makes sense.
HOST
So how can there, how can there be a sense of urgency if you know that if you up or you're gonna get bailed out? Like there's. And then that's. That's been like the story of my life.
Like I had no bailouts from family. If I splattered myself against the wall and I went to Vegas and I lost my bankroll, I had to figure out how to go home with it. I had to figure out how to go home with a chick that night just to get. Just to get room and board.
I had to figure out how I'm gonna get a plane ticket home because I ain't calling my mom and I ain't calling my daddy. I'm a grown ass man. I'm 21 years old, I'm gonna figure it out. And that's the mentality that a lot of these guys don't have.
They know if they up, they can just make a phone call and it'll be. The game board will be wiped clean. That's a very ass way to live.
CALLER 1
Life will smack you in the face, honestly. Really, really. Well, sorry. I'm sorry.
I'm cutting in everything.
HOST
No, man, it was good. It was good questions, bro.
CALLER 1
Yeah, it was really good questions. And I, I was, I was like that, actually. I was 20, 21. I was relying on, on a lot of my family stuff until life really smacked me in the, the face.
You know, I got my heart broken. I got humiliated in front of my family. That's when I, that's when you hit rock bottom. You either, you know, continue to be a little, or you tell yourself, I need to face the truth.
And that's where the urgency comes from. But when you put yourself out there, that's when you become, you know, that's where you come. That's when the urgency starts coming. That's when you start having setbacks and be like, you know what?
It, I'm still gonna make it.
HOST
Exactly. That's why I've always said survival turns you into a business owner. Because guess what? When you take moral ownership over your life and you don't have bailouts, you're in survival mode.
And that's going to turn you into an enterprise or it's going to make you industrious. Now you got to navigate the real world. And it's like you're trapped in Vegas with no plane ticket home. How are you gonna get home?
You're gonna figure it out. You're gonna have to be. You're gonna have to use social acumen, you're gonna have to use your social skills. You're gonna have to sharpen some blades.
It's just that simple. And you're gonna have to do it on the spot. You have no time. And that my life has been a constant example of that.
I'm out of time every day. I'm running, I'm running hard, and I'm, I, I don't slack. I just don't slack. I got the jets on, and when they're not on, they're completely off because I don't do things half ass.
So I'm either all the in and all my energy is devoted to it, or I'm completely chilling. There's no in between because I ain't gonna sit there and Type at a computer and do some desk work if it's not completely balls to the wall. Like, if I'm gonna write an email, that email is coming out in 30 minutes and it's going to be a masterpiece because I'm just going to spill my guts in one sitting. I don't need to come back to it.
I don't need to make edits, I don't need to make incisions. I don't need any of that because it's already within me and I just want to get it out. I just want to purge it. So that was a great question, man.
I'm going to keep it moving.
CALLER 6
Nice one, bro.
HOST
Rad. Talk to us.
CALLER 3
Yo, what's going on, guys? Thanks for having me on. Don't really have a question. Just want to say thank you to you and, you know, basically everybody else who talks the same that you do, because it's real.
And this is the only place where you're gonna find like this. You know, I. I came on Twitter looking for other people that were looking for the truth.
CALLER 4
And.
CALLER 3
And naturally, people always find themselves in the same realm, whether it's bitcoin, self improvement, religion, it's. It's all the same, right? I mean, what we're witnessing right now is we're literally having a renaissance, right? Everything that you say, Brute, is shit people were saying thousands of years ago, right?
Like, this isn't. It's not different, right? Nothing that's happening right now is any different, whether we're the same people that we were thousands of years ago, and we're heading into a golden age, right? And this is the renaissance that brings us there.
And this is the shit that we always need to talk about, right? That we always need to focus on, and it's helping a lot of people, right? Because this world, our. Our society is literally engineered to.
To. To make you lost, right? And to not know these things. And yeah, man, you're helping a lot of people.
I just want to say that. And anybody else that, you know, talks about the same, like mine, bow tied everybody on here. It's exactly. It's crazy, man.
You guys are having impact.
HOST
Yeah, I appreciate it, man. And that's the whole thing, too, is that when you live the way that I'm talking about, it's the most. It's the most ethical way to live because you're actually plundering and pillaging the world for its wisdom as well. So, like, when you're taking these trips to hell in those lonely states, those lonely nights where you don't have a shoulder to cry on.
That's when the wisdom, the epiphanies, that's when they all hit you. And then you can take that back to the world. You can take that back to your kids. Because there's no point in going to war and getting all these war stories if you're not going to pass down that wisdom to your kids, and you're not going to pass that down to the next generation.
That's why I'm on Twitter, because I've lived it. I've taken so many trips to hell that, quite frankly, it's hard not to go back. I gotta pull myself back now because every time I've gone to hell, I've come back so much stronger and so much wiser and so much tougher that I actually now have to put a leash on myself because I. I don't mind mixing it up.
I don't mind going into the depths of despair sometimes because I know I'm going to come out a better person. But that also is a very delicate balance because you can't live your whole life like that either. At some point, you got to come back to the light. So I appreciate it, man.
CALLER 3
Yep. Everybody have a good day. Be good. Stay humble.
And you either getting worse every day or you're getting better every day. You're never staying the same. So just everybody focus on getting better. Everybody, every.
Getting better every day. That's it. That's all you gotta do.
HOST
Touche, man. We got B on. Yes. You're a little bit muffled, though.
You're muffled, bro. Sounds like you're. Sounds like you're scuba diving.
CALLER 5
Can you hear me now?
HOST
Much better.
CALLER 5
Oh, yeah. Basically. I started making money online this year as a sales rep. So I'm from South Africa.
I'm from a third world country, so I make money in USD. So it's my second month as an sdr, and I'm looking at base salary, and it's going to be like 3K. And that's a lot of money. And basically I still live with my parents.
And I'm looking around and I'm. And I'm realizing that my dad and my older brother don't know any of this. Like, they're not financially literate at all. And I'm realizing that I'm basically gonna be.
Have. Have to be the one who carry my family out of basically poverty and still having to figure everything out. Basically, like 22. So I don't even know how to handle any of this at all.
HOST
We. We all are, man. The boomers are the most lied to generation in. In history, man.
They've been absolutely bamboozled to the bone. From. From nutrition to politics to. To interpersonal dynamics, they have been absolutely.
Huh.
CALLER 5
Voice note.
HOST
Yo, yo, yo. Yeah. When I'm talking, you're not talking. The.
What I was saying is, is that the. The structure of it is, man, is that we all have a responsibility to reverse course because we are kind of the chosen generation. That's just what it is. Like, we have to.
I've seen so many flaws in my parents. Like, my parents have been a perfect example of how not to live. I mean, if I had followed their advice or taken the course of path that they laid out for me, I would have driven my life off a cliff a decade ago. And I think a lot of guys are in that same position because the boomers, even though they're well intentioned, and to be quite honest with you, I don't even know if they are well intentioned at this point.
There seems to be some sort of very weird, malicious resentment that a lot of boomers had towards their kids, I think because a lot of these boomer parents subconsciously think that we're a burden to the freedom that they had before they had us. And so it's like one of the first generations where you kind of get this pulse. When you put your finger on the pulse, you kind of understand that these parents had this kind of weird resentment for their children. And we have all been kind of bestowed this kind of grand mission to kind of untangle all that and figure it the out.
Because, I mean, I'll tell you something. My son turns 2 this month, and I am raising him literally the complete opposite of the way my. My parents did. And he's off to a tremendous start.
So it starts with us, and that's why these conversations are so important to have. But I appreciate that, that sentiment. Man, I'm gonna. Gray.
What's up, brother?
CALLER 1
Hey, what's up, bro? So I've been following you for a while.
HOST
I'm not sure if you've touched up
CALLER 1
on this, but I live in Vegas too. But how do you go off of
HOST
working, like two days in a row? Like, lack of sleep? Like, any advice, man, that's. So that's such a personal question.
I mean, my, my thing is this. I don't see any point whatsoever in obsessing and stressing about 8 hours night sleep if eventually you're not gonna go spend that. Like, what are you. What are you expending all that energy for.
I know who do it for a decade. They're obsessed with their little nighttime rituals. They go to bed and they get all this. They get eight hours of sleep.
But then what are you. What are you doing with all that rest? At some points, you gotta go on some kind of bender to create something, right? So that's my thing is, like, I go on cycles too, where I'm eight hours every night, and then sometimes I gotta go six months on three hours sleep.
But that's because I invested the eight hours before that. Because sleep debt, I do believe is real. Sleep debt is real. Like, eventually you do got to pay that back.
So it's just a matter of. I mean, are you. Are you. Are you on three hours sleep so that you can do Molly and play video games, or are you on three hours sleep because that you're actually accomplishing something?
Two very. Two very different things. If I'm on three hours sleep, you bet your ass it's something magnificent's going on. Amen.
Amen. But I'm just. Basically just working two jobs right now, so. Yeah, you don't have a choice.
And that's. I mean, that's. That's. I think that's where you're building spirit right there.
Because. Because you have to. Because you have to understand, dude, fundamentally, exhaustion and being tired is the easiest emotion to tap into. You cannot name an emotion that is easier to cop out, quit, surrender, give up, than tired.
Anybody can be tired at any point. If you take a man's goals and ambitions away, he's tired. Man is a naturally tired creature. We're naturally tired beings.
But it's interesting that when you put more on your plate and you take on more responsibility, that has a replenishing component to it that gives. That infuses men with more energy. It's very ironic and it's very counterintuitive. But, I mean, dude, there's.
There's many given points throughout the day where mentally I can see myself slipping into exhaustion. And I feel like part of being a man is fighting against that. It's one of the few aspects of yourself that you actually do have to fight against, because being tired is endemic. It's endemic to the species.
It's who we are. It's. It's just part of the game. It's hardwired in.
But I feel like those who can actually combat that go a lot further than other people who don't. Amen, man. Amen. So good on you, man.
I'm gonna.
CALLER 6
Thank you.
HOST
Yeah. What's up? You got another question? No, not really.
Not really. I just want to hear everything now. Thank you. I'm gonna keep it moving.
You got it. Let's hear from Wild man.
CALLER 6
Hey, thanks for having me on, man.
HOST
What's up, bro?
CALLER 6
I kind of wanted to, you know, piggyback off that last guy's question. So how do you combat, you know, that tiredness when you get it, you know, middle of the day, right? Like, is it all mental for you? Or I know you're big on health.
You know, of course that can help. But, you know, sometimes, you know, like you said, it just comes up. Is it all mental for you, or do you just, like, slonk a coffee or how's that work?
HOST
No, it's 100 mental. And one of the. One of the best ways I can frame it to you is that you got to show up. So if I'm exhausted, first thing I'll do is I'll.
I'll pry myself into the gym. Because if you just show up, 90 of the battle is already completed. Like, if I show up to the gym, sometimes I'm. I'm actually so beat up and so exhausted, I'll just go to the gym, and I'll be like, all right, I'm just gonna take an empty bar and do some mobility drills.
I'm just going to kind of around and just play with the bar a little bit. All of a sudden, after 20 minutes, I'm throwing weight on there, and then all of a sudden, I'm stacking more weight on there, and then all of a sudden, I'm stacking more weight on there, and then all of a sudden, I have one of the best workouts that I ever could have imagined, even though I was dead tired an hour ago. And all of a sudden, I'm just stacking plates, and maybe I even hit a personal record that day. Because how you feel is a lie.
How you feel is a lie. You never know what you're capable of until you try. And, I mean, I've had some of the best workouts. I've had some of the best spurts of creativity.
I've had some of my best successes in business when I felt like absolute dog and I showed up anyway. So I think it's important to suit up and show up no matter how you feel. And that has this sort of. It's like quantum.
It's like quantum mechanics, man. It has this quantum mechanical effect of just kind of. You go through the motions, and then all of a sudden, you start feeling good. And then all of a sudden you start making progress.
Progress. If you. If you are somebody who can make progress under severe exhaustion, you're going places in life. It's just that simple.
CALLER 6
That's beautiful. It's like you just get the ball rolling and it's almost like the. The universe rewards you for putting in that effort while others just tap out.
HOST
Of course, how could I feel so shitty? But. But I'm still putting up so much weight. How is that possible?
Because there's some reconciliation of the spirit in that. That's what that is. That's that great epic battle that we're all in search of. That's what I'm talking about.
It's always you versus you, right? Life is a. It's a. It's a one player game.
It always has been.
CALLER 6
That's beautiful, man.
HOST
Thank you. Y. Can I jump in and just say
CALLER 1
something real quick, brute, about the topic that he was talking about?
HOST
Yeah, go ahead, brother.
CALLER 1
Just want to say that a lot of people also tell you that it's okay to rest. And it can, it can with your mind as well. They'll tell you that it's okay to take a day off or if you're tired, you need to go rest. And everyone else is doing the same thing around you.
And sometimes your mom, your mind plays tricks with you and it tells you that it's okay, you know, everyone else is doing it. So sometimes you got to ignore that and you got to take initiative yourself and say, you know what? It. Am I.
Am I actually doing the right thing? And you'll be surprised that a lot of the times your mind lies to you, you. So you got to be aware of that.
HOST
Of course. And you also have to have that competitive spirit because I force myself to do things every day that I really don't want to do just because I want to crush. Just because I want to crush and stay ahead of the people that I dislike. And that's.
That. That's like. That fosters this ethic that I'm talking about where I think a lot of guys struggle to really force themselves to do things that they really don't want to do. And what's interesting about that is it's very paradoxical because it's also coming from a natural place.
Place I'm also honoring myself when I do that. It's not necessarily that I'm going against the grain. It's that I understand that as a man, my responsibility is to wrestle with these psychic forces and get the best of them. And if you're unwilling to do that, then you're just gonna burn yourself out.
That's why I always say laziness is a myth. Do you understand the energetic expenditure that it takes to be lazy? People don't get it. People look at people that are lazy and do nothing.
They're like that. How is he so tired? Because it takes a great deal of energy to ignore the things, you know, you have to do in your head. That is an enormous tax on your energy.
It's an energy leak. I'm gonna keep moving. Muhammad, what's up, bro? Muhammad, we got you on?
CALLER 2
Yeah, okay. What's up, bro?
HOST
Fire away.
CALLER 2
Yes. Speaking about surviving setbacks, I think men should educate themselves about what happens all over the world. I mean, we live. I live in Jordan.
It's engulfed by Palestine, Syria and fucking Iraq. We hear a lot of stories from the refugees, etc. I mean, what you think about if you lose some money, if you lose your girlfriend. What about the men who lost their children?
They picked them from the rubble and who lost their whole family, their whole country. And they are nothing without identity, without any destination right now. So these stories always inspires me that whatever happened, there could be something worse. And I think it's not just that.
We can look around the history. We are in the most comfortable era in our time, in human time.
HOST
So of course, because. Because some men just understand that eventually you have. You have to get over it sooner or later or it's going to destroy you. Some men just choose sooner.
It's just that simple. Some men just choose to get over it sooner because sooner or later you got to get over it.
CALLER 2
Yes.
HOST
And I'm one of those. And I'm one of those. I just choose sooner, dog every time.
CALLER 2
So after what happened to all the peoples in the war zones, you look at them, they are still alive. They are still getting things accomplished. They are surviving. So I look to myself and say what these problems are compared to them, it's really nothing.
Losing a woman, losing all your finances, it's really nothing. You are still in one piece.
HOST
Yeah, I mean, I would be careful of that though, man. I never found any kind of grace, race or solace in. In looking at the misfortunes. Like, I don't find inspiration of knowing that it could always be worse.
That's not, that's not where my competitive edge is. My competitive edges is. How can I be where someone has it better? That's, that's where I.
I have the complete inverse point of view on that. There's obviously there's someone who always has it worse than me. That's just, I mean that's, that's like the most baseline state. I, I don't feel like that's for, for men that really have it going.
I don't think that's a, that's an adequate source of motivation or fuel because that's, that's also a form of self deception. How come people don't ever put that in reverse and talk about getting to the level of people that have it better than them? You don't hear that, you just hear people. You just hear people using these anecdotes of people in war torn countries who've lost everything and it could always be worse.
And you know what people do, man? They use that as a cope to stay right where they are. Because if there's someone that always has it worse than you, why should you change? Why should you change?
If you're a fat and you know that someone has it still way worse than you, why do you have any motivation to change? And that's the main issue that you see with the, with the modern man, is that the modern man walks by other men that they clearly see who have what they want. And rather than trying to take or integrate or borrow the qualities and aspects of that man that could make them better, you know what they do? They turn their cold shoulder and they look down in shame.
They look down in shame rather than walking by these other aspirational figures and say, you know what? I want to be like that. That motherfucker's gonna push me to the next level. So I would just be very careful about using that, those anecdotes because trust me, there's a lot of sharks who ain't using that as fuel because they know it's a weak way of doing it.
CALLER 2
Yes, definitely. Sometimes people use this as yes to pity themselves. I, okay, I am, I am good.
HOST
But no, someone has it worse than you. No, someone has it worse than you.
CALLER 2
Yes.
HOST
No, that's obvious.
CALLER 2
But I heard you're talking about the naked man. I think these stories, the people and live in tough situations should inspire you to be a better as a naked man when you have nothing.
HOST
Correct, Correct. That's the, that's the stronger reframe right there. I'm going to take the next question. Man.
Thank you.
CALLER 3
Thank you.
HOST
Pierre, what do you got?
CALLER 7
Yeah, hi, Bruce. I had a question about like mind and stress. So I was wondering, let's say you have like an important business meeting with an important person. You have like a competition like, like a moment that is important for you and you keep like, overthinking about it, like, yeah, like your mind is telling you're not gonna do good at it.
Like, how can you train your mind? How can you. Do you have like, any advices or like, training you can do about this?
HOST
Yeah, do the opposite. And go in and do some improv. Start working. Start working on the fly.
Because that ingenuity is a very, very coveted skill that I think is lacking in this society is that people feel like they have to be prepared before they go into everything. And, and if you put yourself in enough situations and you view yourself as an escape artist. I'm gonna go in this and I'm gonna pull a Houdini. I'm gonna.
I'm gonna go in here. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing, but I'm gonna figure it out using whatever dad is coming to me in real time. That's how you really fucking build that mindset. I, I will intentionally go into situations unprepared.
I don't give a fuck about preparation. That course that I built, I built a course on Twitter where it's like 17 hours of like very in depth video videos of me talking on various subjects. I didn't write a thing down. My cameraman was blown away.
He was like, dude, how are you spilling all this without index cards, flash cards, zero preparation? I was like, dude, because it's all within me. Just get the camera rolling. I'm just gonna start talking.
I already have it all inside. And this. That's a perfect question because it goes back to my original point of that identity. When you're, when you're aligned with your core, you have all the answers.
I don't need external preparation. Just put me in, coach. I'm gonna start performing. I'm gonn out.
If I snap my leg, I snap my leg. It is what it is.
CALLER 7
Thank you, man.
HOST
Yep. I'm gonna take one more question. Frank. Hey, can you hear me?
Yep. Should you compare yourself to your previous self, to your future self, or to others? Others is a definite no. I mean, dude, it's kind of a metaphysical question.
I don't really. I don't. And I don't really have those metrics. Past self, future self.
I just, I put my best foot forward every day. One foot in front of the other. And I mean, a lot of times you got to have regressions in order to go forward. I think that's part of life.
That's. I kind of. That's Kind of the whole central topic here, setbacks, right? I mean, you need.
Sometimes you got to go back three steps in order to go forward 10. So there's going to be oscillation. And I just think embracing that process is more important than these sort of, you know, intellectual, conceptualized kind of games we play with ourselves, like past self futures. Like, what does that even mean?
You know what I mean? Like, that's an endless. That's an endless intellectual morass that you can just pluck through forever. Like, there's no finality to that.
There's no closure in those types of questions. And I think people get hung up on those. Those questions that don't have closure because they know they can play these endless games with themselves. I like finality and closure.
I ask myself questions that I can actually generate a real answer to and past self, future self. That's so abstract. Like, I get what you're saying, obviously, but it's extremely abstract. And it's.
I think that people can use that as a tool to just be stuck in whatever situation they're in and play games. So I would advise you to ask questions to yourself where you can actually get closure. Real answers, real. Real solutions and real answers.
That's what I'm. That's what I'm all about.
CALLER 1
Spicebought.
HOST
I don't know what you just said, brother, but hey, man, you guys, this was. This was a pleasure to talk to you guys. We're gonna do this again soon. Thanks.
CALLER 1
I appreciate it. Thank you.
HOST
Yeah.