Hormonal health
HOST
All right, so I was saying before I got cut off, if you are an alpha dog in the gym, and the gym is the one place of sanctity where you train and you got your bravado and you can beat your chest and you're the big dog, but then you leave the gym and you go home to a spouse that you despise, you got your woman barking at you, yelling at you for leaving cups out, yelling at you for leaving clothes on the floor. You go to a job, you have a boss that you're subservient to, that you hate. If you hate your daily life, I don't give a fuck how much testosterone you're on, how many fucking supplements you take, how dialed in your sleep is, your hormone profile will be atrocious. Will be atrocious because nature rewards courage and it's an ass backwards way of attacking the problem.
If you are a man who does whatever the he wants to do and you have freedom, I guarantee you have a good hormone profile. I don't give a what a blood test says. I don't give a what a blood test is. I will tell you that blood tests has to be one of the most moronic ways to measure health that I've ever seen.
It's one of the greatest grifts of all time. It just truly is. You're telling me that a snapshot in time, a brief moment captured of whatever the fuck your blood levels are tells you nothing about the overall portrait of your health? Zero, zilch, Nada.
Nothing. Complete fucking waste of time. Because the body is so dynamic. Do you know how hard testosterone, adrenaline, epinephrine.
Do you know all these hormones are fluctuating drastically throughout the day depending on what different modes you're experiencing? Said it a hundred times, Testosterone is an as needed hormone. You do not need testosterone overflowing in your bloodstream 24 hours a day? That is an asinine concept.
It's an asinine way to go through life. And like I just said, it's a surrogate proxy way of avoiding. The real reason why your hormones are up is because you don't live life on your terms. Because you don't have the balls to get out of a relationship that you hate.
And you don't have the balls to quit the job that you hate. Don't. All that relationship stress, all that job stress, you think you can combat that by injecting shit? Like, do you really think subconsciously your body doesn't know that you're living life on your knees?
That you're living like a. Of course it does. Of course it does. All that data, all that feedback that's just getting stored in the unconscious mind.
Which is why faking narcissism, faking dark triad traits is in the same vein of absurdity. I see on Twitter espousing, like trying to ramp up and fake narcissism, like that's going to get you what you want in life if you don't have it naturally. And that's just who you naturally not are. Do you guys understand the, the, by the time you have faked being a narcissistic, confident prick, like, like the whole charade, the whole theatrical song and dance that you're going to do to, to get there, you're going to be dripping in sweat just to catch up to someone who has that naturally.
And their basal resting heart rate hasn't even moved above baseline. You're, you're competing against who are narcissistic, who are gonna smoke you, smoke you, because it doesn't take any energy for them to be who they are. And you guys are just constantly going against the grain, paddling upstream, trying to fucking be somebody. You're not trying to be Mr.
Big Badass. If that's not who you are. You have to stop playing these games. You are wasting so much energy and so much time just to, just to be equal to somebody who does it effortlessly.
You're playing the wrong game. Playing completely the wrong game. Hormonal health is fascinating because I have seen way too many cases of people who have willed themselves to heroic feats just through sheer willpower and spirit. Spirit is so undefeated.
It's so undefeated. There's the stories. Go read about Henry Knox. Go read about the guy who they built Fort Knox and named it after.
Go, go look at the type of that was doing in the snow, moving cannons and wagons for the military. That wasn't on supplements. That motherfucker was had frostbite, his legs were falling off and he still was able to move heavy artillery and deputize his cavalry to win battles in war. Go look at all these generals that right wing bodybuilding Twitter reveres.
Go look at all these venerated figures. General Custer. Go read about these generals. Go look at their physiques.
These were lean, wiry, sinewy. They weren't coked up on all these bizarre cocktails of supplements. They just had human spirit and willpower. It's all you need.
It's all you need. I mean, I'm, I've been going to the gym for years. And I destroy on no water, no sleep, no food, nothing. I don't need equipment.
I don't need a hearty meal. Just put me in. And I'm gonna perform because I got me. And that's all you really need, is you need yourself.
But you have abandoned yourself. And you literally have convinced yourself that there's something out there externally that's going to turn you into the kind of monster that you want to be. And the problem is, is you're creating a lot of internal insecurity. You're.
You're really, really yourself hard because you're proving to yourself that you cannot perform unless the environment's perfect, unless the conditions are perfect. And that's not how professionals operate. Professionals operate no matter what the conditions are. You know what I mean?
This is how it is. Just the way of the land. I'm looking back at, like, all the warriors, all the archetypes, all these who were actual gangsters, who actually won wars, who actually led men into the heart of battle. None of these motherfuckers were on anything.
So these motherfuckers were starving. And they could still fucking. They could still fucking move mountains and move fucking armies and shit. That's all I need to know.
It's all I need to know. If I look back at history and look at the accomplishments of great men, I don't give a fuck about the environmental toxicity argument. Oh, but testosterone's lower today as a whole yet. No shit.
It's lower today as a whole because there's no wars to fight. We're in a very comfortable environment in general. So, of course that's the reason. I promise you, if plastics entering your bloodstream are truly destroying your life, you weren't gonna make it anyway.
That's reverse Darwinism. Like, you. You're. You're ready to be extinct if that type of.
Is you up. So the holistic approach to your lifestyle, you really got to take an honest assessment and look in the mirror and understand if you're not living life truly on your terms and you're getting kicked around by other people, your hormones are always going to be up. Always. Your spirit's going to be up.
So it's just a absurdity. I want to take some questions. I want to kind of springboard off this. If you just tell me what you guys are struggling with.
Let's. Let's. Let's dig into this. Sawyer, what's popping?
Oh, man.
CALLER 1
I just.
HOST
Just wanted to drop in and say, hey, I've been following y' all for a few days. You and that other feller, GG33. And I was. It.
It really interested me. I'm. I'm also online trying to learn how to make money to support my family and stuff like that. I seen that you did readings, and I was just really interested.
Yeah, man. I appreciate that, man. Enjoy the show, bro. This is.
I'm bringing up people to ask questions. You have a question? I mean, are you doing readings? No, no, no, dude.
I'm not a numerology guy. I just found that space to be extremely fascinating, and I jumped in there as a student just to kind of open, to kind of broaden my horizon. I don't do readings. Oh, okay.
Yeah, I'm. I'm trying to find somebody to help me be successful, man. I mean, that's. That's all right on, brother.
Then sit back and enjoy the show because I'm sure you'll hear some nuggets here in a bit. All right, bro. I appreciate you letting me speak. Yep, of course.
Trying to add some of you guys. Abdullah, what's going on?
CALLER 1
Hey, what's going on? Brute, I hope you're doing well. Thanks for the space, man. So I just wanted to ask you really quickly in regards to, like, the comment you made about narcissism.
Like, if you don't have it naturally, you're always going to be running up against people. You're always going to be, like, trying to catch up to people who do have it naturally. And, like, I just wanted to ask about that, like, if you do. If you do feel like you have it naturally, which I feel like I always have.
I feel I've always had, like, delusions of grandeur and stuff like that. How do you balance that versus, like, some degree of, like, I don't. I don't want to say realism, but like, some degree of, like, you know, day to day interaction. Because I do think that it sometimes leads me to, like, you know, put.
Put things off or like, like, maybe be too focused on the bigger picture and things like that, because I'm just so assured that, like, the bigger vision is going to come true. And I can't stop thinking about the bigger vision in general. And I think, like, that comes from, like, delusions of grandeur and narcissism. But, like, honestly, like, I want to, like, put that on the back end sometimes and just focus on the day to day a lot more and be totally embroiled in that while having, like, the bigger vision in the back of my mind at the same time.
So, like, can you speak to that? At all or do you think like, that's not even the right.
HOST
Yeah, that's, that's a good mindset. There's, there's an old adage that delusions of grandeur just means that you're a whole lot happier than you're supposed to be. And I like that saying because essentially it kind of has the nuts and bolts of what it is to be a man, which is that you have to perform in spite of the conditions and in spite of how you feel. And particularly I've had a tweet about this where the greatest men that I know flip emotions completely upside down on their head.
They are laughing when they're supposed to be crying. They are angry when they're supposed to be happy, and they're happy when they're supposed to be angry, if that makes sense. In other words, whatever life throws at them, they're sort of like the Loki. Loki, the God, the trickster.
They just, they have a way of sort of morphing whatever life throws at them and turning it into some sort of advantage. And I think delusions of grandeur can be extremely potent if obviously if it's backed up by action. The problem is a lot of people think that they're narcissistic when they're not. And really what they're doing is they fail.
They fail at something and they think it's because they're a genius and. Nope. And they're in their misunderstood. So they, in other words, they're not getting, they're not making any progress in life.
And then they tell themselves, oh, the reason why I'm unsuccessful is because people just don't understand me, because I'm too intelligent. People cannot grasp the level that I'm on. That's a slippery slope. That's extremely dangerous because I've seen a lot of losers get in that state of being where they just think that.
They think it's because no one can acknowledge their, their greatness. Right? Which is a, which is a failure of marketing because ultimately we're all here to market ourselves. I mean, that's just what, that's just, that's just who men are.
Right? You're we're born. Tabula rasa. Blank slate, blank billboard.
Your job is to carve yourself out of some sort of stone and then put that forward and the chips are going to fall where they may.
CALLER 1
Okay.
HOST
The narcissism thing is interesting though, because there's a lot of guys who have been red pilled into thinking that sort of false bravado and Fake confidence is going to somehow catapult them to getting more women and more money. Look, it might in the short term, but the reality is this, if you pretend to be somebody you're not and you strike gold in that avatar, you 100% will tear the walls down and bring yourself back to zero old. Because number one, you're going to feel unworthy. Number two, even worse, if you trick a woman into loving you through game or through pretending to be somebody you're not, you will never believe her when she tells you she loves you.
You won't believe her. And that the consequence of that mechanism falling into place is horrific. Because what's going to happen is you're going to end up resenting her thinking she's an idiot for being tricked by you. Then you're going to resent her for being duped by you.
And then you're purposely going to sabotage the relationship and push her away and alienate yourself because you're not the guy.
CALLER 1
Yeah, bro, I think your mic cut off. We can't hear you.
HOST
It might be glitching. So can you guys hear me?
CALLER 1
Yeah, we got you.
HOST
Yeah. No, I've just never seen it. I've never seen somebody successfully pull that off on a long term scale. Short term, sure, you might go on a tear, you might go on a heater, you might get a ton of, you might make some money.
But as far as like a long standing relationship, which it's very obvious to me in 2023, that's what everybody's after. Like all these men. I think that's why game is dying. I think, I think the, I think the red pill is pretty much on its way out because I think men are yearning for something a lot more than just casual sex.
I think men as a whole have been able to sort of hack the system and they can get laid, but there's this emptiness. Like none of these guys really have any love. There's no daily affirmation in their life that they're anything special. Like they're just banging whores at bars and Tinder and all this shit.
But like, I think these guys truly have never known what it's like to have the loyalty and fealty and like Felicity from a woman which is obviously extremely powerful. And so I think a lot of guys are kind of turning their back on the movement in general and sort of trying to figure out, which is really strange because it's an oxymoron. I think people are trying to seriously figure out how to be more authentic, which is which is, like I said, it's an oxymoron because that should come naturally. But I think guys have been so fucked up from social media and looking up to these figureheads and these, these figures that are, that have these bravados and these Personas, they have kind of fallen trap into trying to emulate those things.
And it's just extremely unfulfilling. So I think we have this new generation of men who are, who actually are getting laid, are finding ways to make money, but they're deeply, deeply miserable and empty inside. So they're just, they're just running through these relationships and running through people and discarding everything and then finding themselves back at zero again. So I think we're just in the age of authenticity and truth.
And I think guys are going to figure out it's going to rear its ugly head. Guys are about to get smacked with the idea that, that all these little games you were playing, it's over. It's over. Everybody sees through it.
And the market, the marketplace has changed. Speaking of like, narcissism, like, you don't think women know these tricks? You don't think they've seen it a hundred times now to where, like, it's been neutralized. These, these powerful mechanisms like that Mystery and Neil Strauss, all these like original game guys, that shit worked like 10 years ago, but now everybody knows Game.
So the, the needle has moved. The threat, the threshold is higher to where if you know game and you've studied all that, you're just starting at zero. Does that make sense?
CALLER 1
Yeah, that does make sense. Thank you for that. Can I ask a quick follow up or do you mean.
HOST
Yeah, go ahead, man. Yeah.
CALLER 1
Okay, so the next thing that like, comes to mind when you ask that, and this is not, I mean, I guess it's somewhat related. Was like, I guess this is like. My other thing is like, if you have like, you know, delusions of grandeur and like a grand vision of like, what you want your life to be, and you think that like, you know, and you take like, rigorous action in terms of the real world, in terms of like, trying to live life on your own terms and trying to set that up and being like, really rigorously honest with yourself. Do you think that, like, there's like, I mean, I guess I don't want to sound too like, you know, like Tony Robbins here, but like, do you really believe that there's like no, like, mountain that's too high?
Like there's any like, any delusion of grandeur or any like, idea in Your head, any vision you have for your life or like the world you want to create around you. Like anything is possible in the sense. Like you don't just want to be like, you know, rise up your company or just like start your own business. You really want to be like, you know, a billionaire, world famous, all the rest of it.
Like anything you could want. You really, it's like anything is attainable in that sense. If you're like really rigorous with like the discipline day to day, and also like, you know, the bigger, like grander vision.
HOST
It's tough, man. I'm split on that question. I think, I think there's sort of a dark underbelly here that a lot of people are unwilling to explore, which is the idea that there are clearly defined winners and losers in life. And some people are born losers and will be losers till the day they die.
And I would say to those people, your job is to be the best loser you can be. And I truly mean that from the bottom of my heart. I'm not saying that disparagingly, I'm not even saying that condescendingly. There are some people who, no matter what they do, their destiny is so engineered towards them losing that they will always lose.
That doesn't mean they can't find fulfillment in this life. Some people, like you just said, do have the capacity to have boundless limits. There's some people that just have it, they possess that magnificence. Some people don't.
That's why the self help industry has collapsed upon itself, because you can't fix every situation. Like losers and winners are a very necessary part of the ecosystem. You know what I mean? Like, in order for this world to function, the world would spin off its axis is if there was even one, a 1% shift in that gap.
If you took the pool of losers and just turned 1% of them into winners, the entire earth would literally spin off its axis. Like it's balanced and harmonious for a reason. And it doesn't mean. When I say loser, what I really mean is, is like there's some people that just have a ceiling.
There's some people that truly just have a ceiling. They're just hard capped. Whether it's genetically or mentally, they're just never gonna get over a certain hurdle. And I've just never heard anybody really have the, the, the honesty to admit this, but it's just true.
If you look around you, there's just some people you know are just hard capped. And those people play a very utilitarian role. In society. It doesn't mean that those people, like I said, can't achieve great things.
It's just that they're gonna do it in a way where they're kind of in the background. Like they can be an advisor, they can, they can aid and assist other people who don't have the ceiling to reach their heights, which makes them a very, very important force in the universe. So it's like Betas have to stop trying to be alphas and, and just all these different, whatever roles. Like everybody has to maximize whatever role they are.
Not everybody's going to be a great speaker. Not everybody's going to have incredible charisma. Not everyone's a fucking leader. And the reason why I think the world is in tumult right now and there's like this tempest that has swept over the, the consciousness of men in general is because every man has sort of been spoon fed this idea that they can be a leader, that they can become an Andrew Tate, that they can become a figurehead, that they can be this sensational, you know, polarizing, mercurial figure.
And that's just not the case. You have to play your role and be very honest with what your capabilities are. I said on the Tate spaces, which I thought was apropos to this, that every goal that you have begins as a lie. Every goal begins as a delusion of grandeur.
Your job, your role as a man, is to make those come true. It's that simple. Losers are simply in my eyes, in my estimation, losers are men who cannot make their fantasies come true. That's the definition of a loser.
If your fantasies are swirling around in your head and they never come true, you are a loser. If the fantasies in your head, if you can actualize those and you can crystallize those in the real world, you're a winner. It's very simple.
CALLER 1
Okay, thank you for that. I appreciate that was real as. Dude, I thank you for that. I really appreciate it.
And the brute space was great too, so thank you. I'll hand it off.
HOST
Yeah, man, no problem. What's up, Drew?
CALLER 1
Hey, Brute. I joined a little late today, so I'm not 100 sure what the topic is, but I just had a question that I've been wanting for a little bit. So in some of your videos on Twitter, I've seen that you got a little like, quote, paragraph tattoo on your arm. And I'm just kind of curious on what that is.
I think I saw some, like, poker. Sorry, I'm out of breath. I just got done working Out. But I saw some, like, poker clubs and spades, and I just didn't know if you ever really touched on what you got in your arm right there.
HOST
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the. The. The arm tattoo is the Leo constellation.
I'm a Leo with. With the cards obviously signified instead of the stars, because I was a professional poker player for a long time. And then the quote is a William Blake quote that I really loved. I read it in a psychology book many years ago, and I got it tattooed the same day after I read it.
I'll read it to you. It's. It's a deep one. It's one you probably have to ruminate on for a while to understand, but it's a phenomenal quote.
It goes like this probably would be filled with a sense of personal outrage if it could hear us class it without ado or apology, as a crustacean and thus dispose of it. I am no such thing. It would say, I am myself. Myself alone.
That's the great William Blake, who was a psychologist in the early 1900s. Dude. Did phenomenal work in breaking down and just sort of pop psychology in general. I absolutely encourage all you youngsters to go check out William Blake.
Is that it, brother?
CALLER 1
Yeah.
HOST
I mean, that's.
CALLER 1
I'm definitely gonna have to sit on that one for a little bit. But, I mean, going off with the last guy just kind of talked about how you were kind of mentioning how, like, a lot of these guys have never felt like true love and everything. And it seems like in just today's world, with the digital marketplace, we got on social media, how quick it is to just say it. I'm moving on to the next thing or whatever.
Like, I feel like, isn't there a certain point where, like, it's like, damn, you really gotta apply yourself to something and not just say it. I'm moving on to the next thing.
HOST
So much. Yes. 100, man. And that's like, we live in a culture where it's so easy to abandon ship when things get tough. It's easy to abandon relationships.
I mean, I think the life cycle of the average relationship now has to be the lowest it's ever been. I mean, even friendships like relationships just erect and collapse pretty much overnight. Now it's really rare that you see relationships hold on for a long time. And I think that's kind of translated into business.
It's translated into a lot of things. There's a lot of guys who just don't have a pain threshold, which, look, I've said this before. I'M a professional sports gambler. The first seven years that I tried sports gambling, I ruined my life.
I ruined several lives, several of my future lives just trying to crack the code and figure it out and doubling down and saying, you know what? I'm going to pull this off. And everybody thought I was crazy. And everybody asked me, what are you doing to yourself?
You're destroying yourself. And I was willing to take that risk, risk on myself, because I knew I would eventually figure it out. I'm talking seven years of being absolutely clobbered and losing every thing that I had to my name basically on a daily basis until I figured out a system where I could prevent that from happening. That level of fanaticism is the only way to make it, is to double down and triple down on anything and just continue to rock forward no matter what happens.
Because as I always say, your true power in this life is measured by how much you can waste, how much time you can waste, how much money you can spend, how much you can burn, how much you can throw away. That's the true power of a man. It's not in how much damage you can deal, outward, it's how much damage can you take? How much damage can you take?
That is the measure of a man. And a lot of people, the minute they come, they stumble into the smallest problem. They abandon ship and jump into another career, jump into E Com, jump into, you know, lead gen age, whatever the it is, people just don't have the wherewithal to stick through. And it's, it's.
It's because success is so simple. That's what's. So. That's the whole ironic, like, tragic comic thing about the whole thing.
Dude, success is so simple. It's just a grind. It's a. It's tedious, it's meticulous.
And people have. Their attention spans have been obliterated by social media that they just can't plug into something for a long time. Long enough period of time to become an expert. I appreciate your question.
Andy. What's up, buddy?
CALLER 1
Hey, Brute. How's it going?
HOST
What's up, man?
CALLER 1
Hey, I just had a question. So I started seeing some success doing E Commerce, and now people are reaching out to me, wanting to do projects with me. When would you know, like, how much to take on and who to take on?
HOST
It's a good question. I mean, from personal experience, I'm somebody who always is willing to bite off more than I can chew. In other words, if I'm jumping into anything with any kind of zeal or passion at all. I'm gonna say yes, even if I can't do it, and I'll figure it the out as I go.
So I'll never turn down an opportunity that I want. Even if I feel unqualified, I'm just gonna say, yeah, give it to me, and then I'll become whoever I need to become to pull off that task. So, I mean, I'm. I'm very much an advocate for biting off a lot more than you can chew.
When I first built my Twitter account, one of my first tweets that kind of rattled, you know, this sphere of Twitter was I said something to the effect of men need a lot more pressure and a lot more problems to succeed. The issue that I see is I think guys don't have enough problems. I think we. I think men need a lot more problems.
In other words, I think men need a lot more pressure and a lot more fires to put out on their shoulders in order to rise up to the occasion and get shit done. Which means putting more financial stress on your shoulders. Putting a lot more. You just.
I. I am a huge advocate for stress because iron then. This circles back perfectly to my whole talk on hormonal health. I have found that good stress, I think they call it eustress from, like, business or challenges that you're taking on.
I think that shit's the fountain of youth. Like, if your diet is dialed in and you do train and you work out and you take care of your health and you are stressed to the max in business, I don't give a what anybody says. You're going to age beautifully as a man. You're going to age beautifully.
That's the type of stress that really doesn't kill you. The type of stress that does kill you is the meaningless stress, like your blood's boiling sitting in traffic, or your blood is boiling sitting, waiting in line. Little, like, little kind of peripheral stress like that. That's the.
That ages you. Like, but, like, taking on heroic challenges and taking on taking the reins of situations that are hard to wrestle with, that's really, really healthy stress, in my opinion, and will keep a man going for a long time.
CALLER 1
Awesome. Thanks, Bruce. I appreciate that.
HOST
Yeah. What's up, Z? Hey, bro, can you hear me? Yes.
Hey, man. I have a quick question.
CALLER 1
So I know you said something about
HOST
it kind of being either you have it or you don't. Can you build that personality kind of
CALLER 1
how you talked about with Andrew Tate?
HOST
I mean. Yeah, of course. I mean, you can. That's kind of the point is like you can, you can pull the wool over people's eyes for a very long time.
You can fake a lot of things, especially in relationships. But like, but like I said, it's, it's not hard to do that. The problem is, is you always know, right? You, you always know.
So like, karma is not something that's dished out on some ledger that's, that's kept by the mysterious universe. Karma is the punishment that you deal out to yourself. We as humans hold ourselves accountable when we up, when we know we're doing something wrong. That's in, that's not in alignment with God, whatever the.
You want to call it, you want to call it your center, your core, God, the universe, whatever. We will punish ourselves. Humans hold themselves accountable. Whether that's destroying yourself through drugs, whether that's destroying yourself through alcohol.
You will destroy yourself if you are acting out of pocket with who you're supposed to be. I've never seen somebody successfully, like I said, pull off wearing a mask eternally without absolutely destroying themselves. It's never happened. It's a built in mechanism.
It's hardwired it. We come out of the box factory installed with that software that human beings will punish the out of themselves for acting out of alignment with God. It just will happen. It will happen.
O.J. did it. O.J. did it. O.J. got off of murder and his conscience was so guilty because he knew he did it that he had to go commit another insane crime just to get himself put behind bars. He did that to himself.
Why did he do that to himself? Because he was holding himself accountable. That was his karma. It was self inflicted.
It emboldened him. It emboldened him to put himself in that position. I could go on and on and on and on and name hundreds of other examples of people who got away with atrocious things and then put themselves right back in the spot. George Zimmerman did it.
George Zimmerman got himself busted with the law yet again after getting exonerated. There's a ton of cases of holding themselves true to their karma. So yes, you can be effective, you can be quote unquote successful. You can get women, you can make money be being.
Being a deviant, Being a deviant. But the punishment that you deal out to yourself will come back tenfold, I can promise you that. Oh, it's all good. That was a good question, man.
I'm gonna keep it moving. That was a great question.
CALLER 1
Thank you.
HOST
What's up, Garden? Hey, thanks for hosting the space, man. Really appreciate it. Okay, I got A question.
I know a lot of cultures throughout history have had very clear and ceremonious rite of passages for young men. And I'm really curious. Do you have any ideas for what we as men could do for our sons for rites of passage, for ceremony into adulthood? That's a great question, man.
I mean, look, the first one that I could. That I can come up with is, I think, 100%. I think that it's important to approach our children as they are unique. We bring our children into this world so they can have their own unique experience.
I have zero desire to make my son a clone of myself, which I think is what a lot of fathers fall into, is they want a clone. I don't want a clone. I want to foster this sort of ethic that my son. I want him to actualize whoever he is supposed to be, and I really don't want to interfere in that process.
So I think the biggest thing, number one dude, is shuffling them the. Out of the school system. I look at that as a rite of passage right away. Like, I'm never, ever gonna let a public school indoctrinate my children, because I think that it's.
I think they're designed to extinguish the sparks and flames of genius. You know, those moves were. Those moves were tried on me when I was a kid. It didn't work because some seeds, if you bury, they grow regardless.
But I do think a lot of children have been absolutely stifled by just the modern schooling system. So I think figuring out a way, I think. I think that, like, the greatest bond, the greatest rite of passage you could have with your child as a father is to be their teacher. Like, you are their historian.
You are the. You know, you teach them Euclidean geometry. Like, whatever the fuck it is, you as a father have to have that teacher, student relationship. And I.
I think that's an instrumental opportunity that's been largely missed, especially in the last 40, 50 years. A lot of fathers have passed off that work to, you know, to other people. I would almost call them enemies. You're basically putting your.
Your child in the hands of an enemy tribe. And I believe that those enemy tribes are designed to throw your children off course. So as a. As my responsibility as a man, I believe for my child, he's 2 years old, his first rite of passage is to go through his.
The educational system, through me, through my. Through my blood, sweat and tears, my wisdom, the things I have learned. I have to impart that wisdom onto him. All right, thank you.
Thank you for addressing that I appreciate that. Yep. Dollars like Pablo, what's up, man? Get someone else.
Mister who is him. What's up? Can you hear me? Yeah.
Yeah. My first question is I really absolutely love space, is how do you consistently stay in a frame of mind where you're able to do tasks like going to the gym or getting along with your business and like build discipline around having a very healthy workspace? That's the first question. Second question is, what advice would you give to your 19 or 19 year old self if you were 90?
What advice would you give yourself? And the first question is really, if you could also like drop down, like some book recommendations as well, that would be great. Thank you. The first question is really easy.
Just look around you. Look at the, look at the state of play. Look at the, look at the state of condition that the average person is in. When you look or when you walk around and you see people that are corpulent and fat and rotund and in these despicable, unshapely, unsightly states of being, it makes it very easy to want to stay ahead of the competition.
Very easy. I go to the gym every day because I'm just lapping. Who don't. That's my, that's my ammunition.
That's my impetus right there. Because I want to stay ahead of my enemies. You know what I mean? Like, I do all sorts of things that I don't want to do on a, on a daily basis.
I twist and corkscrew my mind all the time to force myself into situations that I don't want to be in because I just know it has to be done. There's a voice in my head that tells me to go lift weights every day. I have to honor that voice. I have to honor that voice before I get anything else done.
And everybody has those whispers, everybody has that chatter in the back of their head. And as I've said before, if you ignore the whispers and you ignore the admonishments in your head, it takes, you are double taxed on energy. It takes triple the energy to be lazy than it does to get things done. Because believe it or not, ignoring your bodily impulse to move is, is an insane feat.
That's why when people say fat people are lazy, I disagree. Fat people are not lazy. Fat people have pulled off one of the greatest heists in history and they've pulled off a heist on themselves, which is their body is telling them to move their fat asses every day. And they ignore.
They ignore, they repress, they stuff down. That takes an unbelievable Tremendous barrel of energy to keep that jig going. It's way easier to get the fuck off the couch and listen to the whispers in your mind. Trust me, fat people ain't lazy.
They're using a monster amount of energy to keep themselves where they are. That's how that shows you how badly people don't want to change. Like the. The human impulse for homeostasis and not to be incredible is.
Is immense. That's why everybody loves people who do things that are. That are unordinary. Because we all know, we all know instinctively how difficult it is to pull yourself out of homeostasis.
Your body doesn't want to build muscle. You know how, you know how expensive metabolically it is to build muscle. Your body wants to be like 15 body fat, sitting around getting some work done, painting murals, women wandering around in the forest. Like that's what the body actually wants.
But the man who can push beyond homeostasis and maintain that state is an incredible specimen. That's why everybody ubiquitously, unanimously lionizes figures that push themselves into those high states of being. Because we all know how tough it is. The body doesn't want to do the hard.
Why would it? We're here to just survive. So knowing that and having that in the back of my consciousness makes it so easy for me to push myself. Because I don't want to be average.
I don't want to be like the I see in the grocery store who are fat postures horrific. They have no confidence, they're staring down at the floor. I don't want to be that guy. I don't want to be that guy.
So it's very easy for me to pull my ass into the gym every day and stay ahead. So easy to stay ahead. It's seriously, it's so easy. It's.
It's less taxing than being the lazy guy. That's what's so funny about it. The more you're doing, the more movement you're in, the more things you're getting done, the more responsibilities you take on, the more shit you're doing. That's a positive feedback loop that give.
That feeds you more energy. You have like a godlike energy when you're, when you're moving around, doing. But when you, when you kill that, that momentum and you go into inertia and you sit still, it's so hard to get it moving again. That's why I don't take days off.
That's why I don't do cheat meals. That's why I don't around that's why I don't eat pancakes and do and have little days where, oh, it's Christmas and now I'm just gonna up and eat 20 Hershey's chocolates. I don't do that because as a hardcore personality type, I know my momentum is everything. It's everything.
And if you kill that momentum for even a split second, you're just gonna get rocked by someone who's not. So it's so simple. As far as my advice to my 19 year old self, man, I would be, if I was 19 again, I would be reading as many books as possible and by the time I was about 20 or 21, I would go, go start applying it into the real world. That's what I would do.
That's what I did when I was 19. I mean, I was sitting in a library all day, just fucking reading, going to the gym, lifting, taking care of my health because I figured eventually the body of knowledge that I got would eventually help me in some capacity when I went into the real world. But I'll tell you what, I got all my success and I got everything I ever wanted. When I stopped reading, that's just 100 fact.
When I stopped listening to podcasts, when I stopped listening to Rogan, when I stopped listening to, to all these, you know, to all these like propped up figureheads, man, that's when really started to click for me, when I could really build my own coherent philosophy. And I think that's what men need to do. I think every man needs to build their own coherent philosophy. What do you think?
What do you believe? Like, what is your model of the universe? I think we need to sculpt that and I think we need to spend time building those things. That's why Twitter has been so valuable to me, because it's been a place where I could upload my just generalized philosophy on life.
It doesn't mean that I haven't borrowed, it doesn't mean that I haven't loaned or leased principles from other people. Of course I have. We all have. You know, we're at the end of the day, we're just pirates, right?
It's piracy. Piracy is what makes the world go around. Everybody's stealing each other's ideas, but I. There's still a way to live where you can get these epiphanies and these, these sort of grand incantations.
If you're living in a bold and daring manner like the, the epiphanies are just going to hit you out of the blue. Out of the blue. Revelations will just slap me and I'm just in awe. Like, I don't even have to force it.
I don't have to sit there, I don't have to meditate, I don't have to journal. I don't have to think hard. I'll just be driving or I'll go through an experience and then just a incredible revelation will just smack me. And that sort of plays into my mentality of, of movement, right?
My whole, my whole mode of life is about movement. I'm constantly in motion. Life's so easy when you're in motion. Like it's just all going to kind of fall into place.
As long as you keep moving, you're going to get all the revelations, you're going to figure things out. Things that didn't make sense 5 years ago will suddenly elucidate themselves down the road. Could be 10 years. Maybe you couldn't understand why that relationship didn't work out 15 years ago.
But I promise you, if you keep moving, the revelation will just come. You don't have to force it. You don't have to force it. And I think when guys get in this trap of forcing it, which is what I did when I was 19, I wanted to force the answers for everything.
I was just, I was going against the grain, trying so hard, Writer's block, trying to figure things out. When you stop trying to figure things out and you just start living, you figure things out. It's so funny how it works. You just, you figure everything out.
All the questions that had you plastered, all the questions that had you just writhing in pain, they, they get answered. They get answered naturally. That's like one of the marvels of life is like all the great questions, they just come to you. So I would tell you as a 19 year old male bro, stop forcing, stay in motion and keep your eye on what the average person is doing and do the opposite.
If you do those three things, I promise you, by the age of 21, you'll be a man, a real man. Thanks, man. Lots of love from India. Thank you so much.
We're gonna get our boy Diogenes on the air. What's up, bro? Diogenes. Yep, I hear you, brother.
CALLER 1
Okay, so I'm joining a little bit late here, so I don't know if
HOST
this is off topic, but I had a question I really wanted to ask you. I recently moved back to the United States after not living here for the past three, four years and having a very hard time adjusting to living here. So what I wanted to ask you was. I believe you live in the United States.
I wanted to ask you sort of why you do. And have you ever considered living abroad? Why or why not? No, man.
I, I pretty much stand by a principle of hyperlocalism. I think that wherever, sort of I was born, I see no reason to flee. I don't give a fuck how pressing, how hard the circumstances are. I mean, I'll probably never leave the United States.
I, I just, I have my roots here. I believe firmly in kind of standing my ground. And again, dude, hyperlocalism is a very powerful concept. I think a lot of men don't realize how many resources they have at their disposal in their current environment.
That's been, that was a huge issue of mine in my 20s. I always thought, I don't have everything I need. If you go into your house right now, you probably have tons of books on your shelf. You've never even read before.
Like you, you have access to so many appliances, amenities, little shops, restaurants, little vibes, scenes like right around your local area that people just refuse to explore. There's so much cool in any city. I don't give a where you live. And there's a lot of things that people have not tapped into.
So recently. What I've done is I've just been really avidly consuming the resources that I already have. Like, like, it's insane to me. People will.
And because this plays into your question, people will have a hundred books on their shelf they've never read, and they're in my DMs asking me for other book recommendations. And I'm like, wait a minute. Why the haven't you read what you already have? Because I know what you're doing.
You just want trophies on your shelf. You just want to collect more books as trophies that you're never going to fucking read. How about you consume the full might and constituency of the resources that you have in front of you. Very few men are doing this.
There's things in your house right now. Every man that's listening to this. There are things, items, resources, right under your nose as we speak that you are not using. And you are in my DMs and other people's DMs asking for other solutions to your problems when you're not even using what you have in front of you.
So to answer your broader question, my feet are planted firmly where they are. And I'm out here every day in the real world, exploring the things around me. There is so much beauty and wonder in this world right at Your fingertips. And I think we all have to hunker down and explore those avenues before we're so quick to want to get up and leave.
Good question. Good question. My brother, Jake Leone.
CALLER 1
Hey, Brew. I've heard you say multiple times that like, affirmations are gay, and I agree with you. Where do you draw the line between like an affirmation or like mental programming? Whether that be like in the news or the music you listen to.
Do you control that and how do you do that?
HOST
Say that last part again about the media.
CALLER 1
Yeah. Do you control your mental programming? And like, if you do, how.
HOST
Yeah, for sure, man. And the reason I know that I do is because I'm extremely sensitive to commercials. Like, I am. I cannot tell you how bad I cringe whenever I hear a radio advertisement or if I'm.
If I happen to be. If, like, if I have a girl over and she's watching TV and I walk by and I hear a commercial, I'm disgusted. I do not like being bombarded and intruded upon with any kind of like, you know, just ferocious marketing. I find it disgusting because I'm just.
Dude, I've kept the TV off for like 20 years. I have no idea what's on TV. I'm a sports better. I don't even watch sports.
I don't give a. So it's like when it comes to those mental paradigms, dude, I'm a self talker. I'm a self talker and that's different from affirmations. But I am coaching myself and talking myself up and through every situation all day long.
I don't listen to myself. There's a very big distinction there. Most people are listening. They're listening to the voice in their head.
They're letting it orchestrate this, the symphony. I don't do that. I self talk. If.
If the voices in my head are telling me to do things that are out of alignment, I. I override that. And I think that's very different from an affirmation. It's a more spiritually in control way of going about it.
Dude is like the greatest men, you know, I'm telling you 24 hours a day, they are walking themselves through situations, they're coaching themselves, they're talking down their nerves. They're masters and commanders of the ship. You know what I mean? Like, that's who you have to strive to be.
Another side segment to the question that you asked is, I would say how, you know, if you have a really good locus of control as a man is how fast you can put yourself to sleep. That's my barometer. If you are a man who's master and commander of your life, you should be able to put yourself to sleep very quickly at night because you're telling yourself to go to sleep. Like, whatever I command my body and my mind to do, it listens.
If I want to fucking go to sleep and I'm tired, I don't give a fuck how cloudy my subconscious mind is. I'm going to sleep because I'm putting myself to sleep. And that is how you know you're in control. If you're an insomniac, if you have trouble sleeping, if your body is betraying you, then you've got some serious mental issues that need sorting.
You know, I'm telling that generally to anybody listening. So again, dude, self talk, like coaching yourself, talking yourself up, talking your nerves down. Powerful as. Do not listen to yourself.
Do not listen to the voices in your head. As a man. Do not override it. Be in control of your life and selft talk.
It's far more powerful than meditation.
CALLER 1
I totally agree, bro.
HOST
Thanks, Solomon. What's up, buddy? What's up, Br? Amazing advice so far.
Just ran into you. My question is, how do you deal with the success that comes with being the type of guy that you're talking about? Basically, I think most people are afraid of success and there is a lot to talk about. I mean, I understand.
So what are your thoughts on that? Yeah, success is funny because everything you do to become successful, you have to do the opposite to maintain the success. That's why I think it's so elusive for a lot of people. That's why it's been elusive even for me, for most of my life.
I really struggled. Every time I'd get to a successful place, I would sabotage. And it's because when you have nothing and you're a nobody, you can take daring chances that you can't take when you have a life worth protecting, right? Like there is a threshold of success where now you have things to protect.
You got a business, you got a family. It's. It's harder to hit the reset button now when you have nothing to lose. You can.
You can take insane risks. You can take incredible shots at life. That's one of the beauties of being poor. And one of the beauties of being a nobody is that you really have nothing to lose.
You can try anything. You can do anything. You can blow up your life a million times. What's the worst that happens?
You're already poor, so you Stay poor. But when you get successful, you have to flip that script completely upside down. You know what I mean? Like, you gotta not be the, the ferocious, bold psycho that you were.
To become successful, you actually have to go through a healing process. Which is why I have always said if you are up mentally and you are not successful, that's your edge. You do not need therapy. You do not need to heal your state of mind before you're successful.
You heal your state of mind after success. What I mean by that is this. If you're a guy who has nothing right now, why are you focused on saunas, massages, relaxation, meditation like that? That's, that's ridiculous.
You should be coked up on your own spirit every day like a maniac trying to find a threshold, trying to find a foothold where you can grab onto and find some success first. Then that road is obviously psychologically damaging. The road to success is psychologically damaging. Don't give a what anybody says.
By the time you are a successful man, you will have experienced a tremendous amount of pain. You will be mangled, your spirit will be broken. But now, guess what? Now if you got millions of dollars in the bank now it's cool to go to the sauna to start healing, taking on these other modalities, go even get therapy at that point, I don't give a.
But you have to make it first before you focus on healing. You have to get there. You have to get to the top of the mountain. Now you can do all that and it's cool.
The reason why I lambast all that optimization is because it's a bunch of people who have nothing. People who have nothing. And you're focused on healing. What are you healing?
What are you healing? Your condition is already fucked. You have to use that pain and that turmoil that you're in. If you're in a fucked up state to become successful, that's your ammunition.
If you heal yourself too early, where's your drive? Where's your motivation gonna come from? You're fucked. You're fucked.
So you don't want to heal too early. You want to get to the end game, get, get some money to throw around, then go do the fucking hyperbaric chambers and all this crazy. No one's gonna talk shit to you at that point because you made it. Does that make sense?
It makes absolute sense, bro. I mean, look, I spent like 15 years of my life just working hard, became a multi millionaire or whatever, right? But now it's like about protecting, like I want to protect my family. I want to protect my wealth.
So life is always about conflict. I get it. But when you have things to lose, you find yourself at a inferior position at times. Yeah, I mean, dude, I struggle with it.
I struggle with it myself, man. I've had. I could have retired several times in my life, and I got too cocky and I thought I was gonna have a hundred million, and I kept firing. And I've.
There's been multiple times, man, I've had eight figures. 2017, I had. I lost $17 million in 2017, I lost 17 million liquid cash. Because I was just. I was too cocky and I wasn't ready for the lessons that I learned.
But the thing is this, man, like, the reason I say all that recovery is gay when you don't have anything is because it's true. Like, if you're going to the hot springs and you're doing all those modalities after you won, that makes you a cool guy. You know what I mean? But, like, these people are so afraid to be up.
Guys will DM me to, like, I'm depressed. I'm so dejected in life. I'm like, dude, that's your gift. That's your gift.
Like, you should be waking up thanking the stars that you have that pain, because that's what's gonna make you successful. And if you get rid of it before you're successful, you're a nobody. You're not going to have anything to push against. So it's like, that's why I always say, man, if you look at any successful person, I guarantee you they have like 10 pathologies in the DSM.
Literally. Like, I guarantee you there's like 10 mental illnesses that a psychiatrist would apply to anybody who's successful. Probably got adhd, probably bipolar, probably got a ton of going on, of course, because how else are you going to be successful? You have to get out of homeostasis, adhd, bipolar, those mental illnesses.
That's the body clamoring. That's the body clamoring to get out of its stagnancy. It's stagnant. The body's stagnant.
That's why people go crazy. That's why people become homeless. Because they were stagnant. They weren't doing anything, so their body went inside.
Insane. As a survival strategy and evolution, the body's like, we need to freak the system out. We need to freak the system out because it's the only chance that before this creature dies, maybe they'll procreate. Maybe by going insane, they'll procreate Maybe something will happen.
But it's better than doing nothing. It's better than doing nothing. That's why people go crazy. That's literally why people go crazy.
Now, if you go crazy and you achieve something incredible, you're no longer marketed as crazy. You're eccentric. See how this works? If you're a loser and you're crazy, then you're just.
You're just done. No, every. No one wants to with you. But if you're a madman and you're successful, you're a genius.
That's the line we straddle as men. It's a very, very dangerous line. That's why Nietzsche talks about danger and play. That's what he's talking about.
He's talking about that bifurcation, that partition. It's a very, very, very. It's a very deep gulf. You know what I mean?
Like, we're playing a dangerous game as men when we drive ourselves mad to achieve our goals. Because if it doesn't work out, you're just a crazy person. And nobody wants to with a crazy person. Anyway.
Brother, that was a great question. Guys, I gotta run. I wish I could continue the show, but we're gonna start doing these pretty much daily. I think I'm.
I'm making some moves. We're gonna start. I'm gonna start doing some, like, audio visual podcasting, and we're gonna get pretty interactive with this stuff, so stay tuned. I really enjoyed the show, guys, and we'll be back soon.