Every disappointment stems from a failed sale
HOST
Every single disappointment that you've ever had in your entire life comes from a failed sale to some degree. Your marketing sucked and you failed to close. Doesn't matter what it is. Doesn't matter if it's intangible, tangible.
Doesn't matter if it's fucking alchemy. Non, alchemy. Doesn't matter what the fuck it is. Every disappointment in life comes from a failed sale of some sort.
And if you're familiar with my work, you know that I'm a huge proponent and advocate for gratifying your whims. I think instant gratification is actually a very good thing for men because it puts you in that sort of predatorial mindset. You're not prey. You're not lurking in the, in the shrubbery.
You know what I mean? Your chest is out. And you have the opportunity to advocate for yourself. If you can't advocate for yourself on small, minute impulses that you have, good luck.
Good luck taking down the big kills. Because everything's a microcosm. And the tiniest things that you do are obviously, obviously a fractal of what the larger picture is. I'm going to give you an example of something that just happened to me, which I found to be a very interesting adventure.
I was at a world class hotel with my girl recently and it was 10 o' clock at night and I wanted a omelet. Wanted an omelette loaded with bacon and meat and a bunch of. And I wanted it. And I, I knew there was 0% chance I was gonna back down on getting this done.
So I fire out a text message to the concierge line and I'm like, yo, I want a fully loaded omelette. Send it up to the villa. Boom. Knew for a fact I was gonna get some scripted rote mechanical response telling me, now we can't do that.
So of course I get the teleprompter. Sorry, sir, breakfast is not served. It's too late, et cetera, et cetera. So I'm in the hot tub with my girl and I turned to her and I'm like, they don't understand.
I was like, I'm not. There's, there's no way this omelet's not getting delivered to me right now. Because I want it. There's just, there's no way.
She's like, what are you gonna do? I was like, I'll tell you exactly what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna strap on my sable robe and I'm gonna throw on some slippers. And I'm gonna twist my whip down the mountain and I'm gonna waltz right into that lobby and I'm gonna get them to fucking cook up this omelet.
And I'm gonna make a spectacle out of it, by the way. Because you gotta understand, when I sent that text message, I landed a glancing blow. I knew it wasn't gonna be a knockout punch. But I also love the idea of utilizing rejection to sort of build up a little bonfire.
You know what I mean? It's very personal to me. I'm a gamer. I'm a gamer in my blood.
I love the game, I love it. So if someone says no, because you got to understand when they're telling me they can't make the omelet, all I hear is that there's, there's a difference in perception here. Logistically. I know how easy it is to crack open some whole eggs and throw it on a skillet.
I know logistically this isn't a problem. This is a perception problem, right? It's dusk, it's nightfall. So there's a mechanical ablation here that's preventing me from getting what I want simply because the clock is ticked in a certain direction.
Now I know it's a perception problem. And I also know another thing. I know if I go down there in the robe and slippers, because the restaurant was buzzing, by the way. It's like a five star restaurant.
So were in there in slack suit and tie, three piece suits. I wanted to go in there disadvantaged and handicapped just to prove to myself that I could get this done right, because it's, it's personal. And if you can't get small things like this done, and you are readily taking no for an answer, you're never gonna get the big kills. It's just not gonna happen for you.
So I throw on this robe, looks like I'm wearing a bear skin, literally a black bear skin. Throw on those furry little slippers, strap up. I get down there, I'm on a mission. I walk into the lobby, I'm immediately deploying every calvary I can find in my vicinity to help me track down the GM hostess.
I point at her, I'm like, hey, I need you to find the gm. Boom. I'm recruiting servers, I'm recruiting busboys. Everyone's crisscrossing.
Everyone in the restaurant is crisscross trying to find this guy, track him down. I got a search party literally rallying a search party, standing there in a fucking bear skin, wild eyed. I have to get this done. I just have to, because I love the game.
And this only satisfaction I get is from winning. Don't care how small, don't care how petty. It all starts from there. That's the focal point.
So GM pops out, comes over to me, he's like, what can I do for you? Put my hand on his shoulder. Look at him, dead deadpan, right in his fucking pupils. And I said, brother, I said, and understand.
Tone is everything, right? Inflection in your voice, the way you're doing things, the. The aura. The aura.
You can get away with bloody murder if the aura is congruent. Understand that too. There's nothing. There's no faux pas.
You know what I mean? Like, it's very hard to have a faux pas if your fucking aura is correct. You can pretty much say whatever the fuck you want. So I look at this man in the eyes and I said, hey, brother, I said, I am not leaving this lobby until we get two fully loaded omelets sent up to the villa.
Now, let me explain something to you. Service workers. Service workers. Most of those shifts are incredibly dull and boring.
Incredibly dull and boring. These are bored. They don't get oddballs coming in, asking for. For off the wall orders, right?
Everything. For the most part, people are going to be constricted to the menu. It's a relatively simple sort of smooth process, even for a GM in a restaurant setting. So I know I'm coming in and I'm bringing a little thunder to the situation.
Like, I'm gonna get this guy excited because I'm gonna create like a mini adventure for him. This Motherfucker's bored. It's 10 o' clock at night. He's running wines, He's.
He's getting the sommelier to go to people's tables. He wants. He wants a little pep in his step, you know what I mean? He wants a spark.
So I'm gonna like that spark and I'm gonna make it enjoyable for him to get this done for me. So this dude runs back to the kitchen and he's like, let me talk to the chef. Now, keep in mind that chef had just cotton wind that I had inquired over the text message and he said no. So he comes back and he's like, we will absolutely accommodate the omelet for you.
We will absolutely accommodate the omelet for you. It wasn't even a question. And the way he was moving, this dude was traversing the restaurant, doing high hurdles, trying to get this done for me because of the way I came in there and because I was Staunch. You know what I mean?
I was staunch. I was a bulwark. I wasn't moving until that got done. I wasn't moving.
I was gonna plant my feet firmly into the ground and get that done. And my overarching point is that service workers want desperately to help the right person. If you have the correct aura and you seem like someone important, and I want to emphasize, I want to put an asterisk, bold, italicize and underline the word seem. If you seem important, motherfuckers will move mountains for you and they will enjoy it.
People want to bend over backwards to help people who seem important. They want to. They want to. If you ever catch yourself, if people in customer service give you that grimace when you ask for their help, then your aura is not correct.
They should never grimace. They should be delighted. Customer service workers should be delighted to help you, especially when you put them on a wild goose chase, because it's unconventional, it's unorthodox. They're bored.
They're bored to tears. They're. They're watching the clock crawl. They cannot wait to get home.
They're begging for someone to come in and shake some shit up. You know what I mean? So if you, if you're a wily character, if you're a wily and wooly character and you have oddball requests, these will go on a mission for you? Of course they will.
It passes the time. It's interesting. Oh, this guy's fucking demanding an omelet at 10 o' clock at night. When's the last time that happened?
Probably never. So you want to talk about sales, right? That's, that's what I just outlined for you is multi million dollar advice, by the way, and I dropped it on your head for free. It's multi million dollar advice because what you have to understand, there's.
It's a perception problem. It's almost never a logistical problem. The logistics are easy with shit like this, but there's a perception problem and you have to interfere with that loop and you have to interject yourself and intertwine yourself and enmesh. You have to be a gamer, you have to love the game.
You can't take no so easily. Everything is malleable. It's mushy. Life is mushy.
Reality is mushy. And if you don't mind getting into the marsh and getting your fucking boots dirty, you can completely change the complexion of every game that you're playing. It's always transmutable. That's the beauty of it.
That's the beauty of it. When someone tells you no, you got to come at it from a different angle. Got to come at it from a different angle. Now, obviously it helps when you fucking waltz into a restaurant and you're fucking built like Hercules and you're six foot one.
Obviously those characteristics help. But understand this, and I tweeted this yesterday. You know how I said being a millionaire is a mental construct? It is.
It's a mental construct. You cannot be a millionaire on paper until you're a millionaire in your head. It's a fact. Size is also a mental construct.
Right. Height is a. Height is a real. Is a real construct.
Like you're. You're gonna be. Your genetics dictate your height. But size, size is a spiritual quality.
You know how there's little. When they're in the room, you'll be looking at a little guy, but he just has. He's spatially large. It's hard to comprehend.
It's even hard to articulate. But the guy just takes up space. But he's little. That's what I'm talking about.
Because size is internal. That's why these roid monkey never win, because the size is internal. Like your size has nothing to do with your muscle bellies. Got nothing to do with your insertion.
It's got nothing to do with your aesthetic. It's an internal self image thing. That's how big you are. That's how big you are.
And that's why these roid heads are juicing and doing all this. Because inside they're little guys. They're tiny. They're Chihuahuas.
Little Chihuahuas running around. And what happens is, what happens is when you try to artificially bloat and inflate your size, what happens is you end up comparing yourself and feeling less than your smaller counterparts, which is intriguing as hell. Because if you really think about it, these that are massive, they'll look at a dude who's smaller than them and more shredded and they'll envy him. They want to be that guy.
Bizarre little perturbation there, right? Can go on and on with these sort of vignettes because there's a lot of wisdom to demystify in a lot of this. Lot of wisdom to demystify and a lot of these behaviors and mechanisms and that you see, people do. Now, I love when we just jump from topic to topic.
I was thinking about my bio this morning. I'm smoking a cigarette and it occurred to me that Buddhism, and if you're familiar with my work, you know, I've I've bastardized Buddhism in the past. And I was kind of laughing. I kind of chuckled to myself because I read my Bible.
I was like, Benjamin Franklin, disrespector. What does that mean? It means I'm disrespecting material. Right?
It means I'm disrespecting cash. That's what the Benjamin disrespect comes from. It means that I have a detachment from material. Okay, Allows me to be reckless.
Now what. What occurred to me is that Buddhism is probably the apex philosophy. It's probably the apex philosophy. That sort of detachment, detachment from the flesh.
I can vibe with that. But here's the catch, and I want you to pay attention to this. The catch is you cannot come full circle and arrive at any of these apex philosophies unless you travel the completely opposite road to get there. In other words, I traveled the complete opposite road of Buddhism to arrive at Buddhism.
Wrap that one around your head. You know what I mean? Being. Being a little more barbaric.
Being. Being reckless has gotten me to the place where I've sustained so much loss. I've had so many Pyrrhic victories where, yeah, I won the war, but the losses were so severe that it kind of nullified. Had a nullifying effect.
That I'm to a point now where I have a complete detachment. I have a complete detachment. There's a very, very good book called Being in Dreaming by Florinda Donner. And she says in that book it's the best definition of freedom that I've ever come across.
I don't think you'll find a definition of freedom greater than this. She says in the book that freedom is. Is the absolute lack of care and concern for oneself. Freedom is the absolute lack of care and concern for oneself.
Can mold that one around in your head. That's a. That's a Titanic. That's a Titanic ontology to kind of.
To kind of tackle with, to kind of wrestle with, to even lock horns with. Sort of daunting to kind of wrap your head around that because there's a lot of truth in it. That reckless. That devil may care.
That reckless abandonment of self is how you push the envelope and how you remain at the edge. There's no other way to do it. There's no other way to do it. Self preservation.
Ironically, ironically, the who self preserve burn out the fastest. They burn out the fastest. Smoking cigarettes is a metaphor, gentlemen. It's a metaphor.
You'd rather burn out than fade away. If you're a red hot blooded Male. You would always rather burn out than fade away. Speaking of which, I've been smoking ceremonially.
I've been doing it sort of at like, sunrise and sunset, and it's sort of this kind of spiritual undertaking that I've been doing. Instead of just chain gunning all day long like I was doing, I'm sort of making it a little bit more celebratory. And it's been, it's been beneficial. It's been, it's been definitely beneficial.
By the way, speaking of sales and sort of this whole kind of like maniacal Persona, do you guys understand how fucking vigilant you have to be in this society? Or when you do go for service, like when you go to a restaurant or you go for any kind of service, you really, really do have to have. You have to be neurotic. You have to be neurotic to stand head and shoulders above the status quo right now.
I mean, the shit that they're putting in the food and restaurants is seriously an abomination. It's fucking disgusting. And I just sit there in restaurants sometimes, and I'm like, people. I'll just see people order that they think is healthy.
And it's lacquered, lacquered in sauces, marinades, filled with sugar, vegetable oils, seed oils, fried. These people are cooked. These people are cooked. When I go to a restaurant, I.
I, like, I am neurotic. I have to fucking coach. I end up having to coach my server, the chef. Like, you have to really, really be whipping your horses to stay healthy because they really are poisoning everything.
It's a disgrace. Like, why the. Does brisket or a beautiful steak need sauce on it? Like, what, what the fuck is the American obsession with this?
Are we children? Do people just feel like they need dessert? They need, like, these slushy slurpee sauces on all of their meat. Like, whatever happened to just eating a good piece of meat, medium rare, with some salt on it?
Like, why do you think these people. Why do you think we have the most misshapen society we've ever seen? I look at people sometimes and I'm like, that person is so morbidly obese that, like, legitimately they cannot fit back in their frame. It doesn't matter what kind of Superman weight loss program they go on.
They're never going back in their frame. It's so disproportionate. It's so stretched out. It's, it's, it's, it's, it's toasted.
It's never coming back. And these People are just repositories. They're repositories for fat cells and just insulating all these heavy metals and toxins in their body. It's really on.
It's unheard of. It's unheard of that as a society we've allowed this to happen. So you have to be. And again, here's the fine line.
That sort of neurosis that I'm talking about, like, when I go to a restaurant, I have to tell them 100 times, seed oil allergy, do not touch my. In seed oils. Cook it in straight butter. No marinades, no sauces, no sides.
Just give me my meat. Because what's crazy is, and I know a lot of you have experienced this, even when you go to a nice steakhouse and you order a steak and it's drenched in whatever the. They drench it in or they baste it in butter, like, the way they do is you feel bloated and you feel horrifying after the meal, and you're like, I just had a steak. I didn't have anything with it.
Why do I feel so horrifying? It's the oils. It's the oils. The bottom line at these companies, you have to understand frying food, cooking up food, inexpensive, nice oil, like.
Like tallow, coconut oil like that. It's expensive. It's expensive. So they're opting for these industrial vats of oil and they're just slushing it fucking everywhere, pasting it on brush, stroking it on all your fucking food.
And then, you know, you eat clean for such a long time and you really realize why that saying there's zero competition really exists. Because if you do, if you are vigilant and you stay on top of it, like I'm saying, you're going to be lean as fuck. There's something very anabolic about cutting out like 95% of what the average person is eating.
CALLER 2
Eating.
HOST
It's just. Anna, it's just. It's insane. It's completely anabolic.
Eating like an ordinary meal now, like, that's how low the bar has been set, are just greasing themselves with whatever the people will put in front of them. It's really bizarre. And so my whole point of that is, like, when you're neurotic and you bring the chef out and you tell them what your special needs are, having special needs is a superpower in 2023. Because, like I said, things.
We live in a lull culture right now. Things are lulled, things are sleepy. Most towns are very sleepy. Right now, people are sleepy.
People are triple. Triple vax, triple boosted are like zombies. So you come in with high energy, and you start making demands, and you do it in a way that's kind of fun and kind of clever, and you know what I mean? You're doing it gregariously.
People enjoy making those kind of accommodations for you, you know what I mean? And on to some degree, it's funny because it's at a local level. You're also bringing awareness to themselves. Like, I can't tell you how many people have told me.
They're like, man, I've seen the way you ordered, inspired me to cut out this blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, yeah, dude, I'm just living by example. So it does have this. This shadow effect where it's like a ripple effect.
You don't even realize how when you're neurotic and you look good, start paying attention. They're like, I want to do what this guy's doing. You know what I mean? It's a net positive for everybody involved.
So don't be afraid to be neurotic and have neurotic requests, you know what I mean? Especially when it comes to advocating for your own health. Because these. These institutions in these restaurants, they don't give a fuck.
You'll order bone marrow and you won't realize 50% of the content volume is fucking Mazola oil. Mazola oil. That should be fucking. That should be.
The people who created Mazola oil should be brought before a tribunal and flogged and tarred and feathered in the public square and quartered. What the is Mazola oil, and why is it in every meat product? Insane. It's completely insane.
I'm gonna open up the floor. Let's. Oh, by the way, by the way, here's the game changer for you. You know, you guys know I'm a teetotaler.
I do not drink. However, the last week I have. I have been, I would say, borderline drunk every day. But.
But check this out. Organic biodynamic wine. You gotta have both of them. Organic biodynamic wine is God's nectar.
There's no after effects. You can drink bottles of this. You don't get a headache. You don't get hungover.
The next morning. Even the fucking buzz is very solid. I will tell you right now, conventional wine is disgraceful. You're drinking dead wine.
There's like 75 to 80 chemicals in a bottle of conventional wine. I don't give a Fuck if it's 30 GS, it's rancid. They put sawdust and fillers and all sorts of weird in wine. The organic biodynamic boutique farms, they do a thoroughly good job.
The soil's living. It's biodynamic.
CALLER 2
You're.
HOST
You're. I'm not claiming wine is healthy because I'm not one of those guys. However, I will tell you that there is a clear, clear distinction in the way that the body responds after. After drinking that.
So do yourself a favor. Go get yourself some organic biodynamic wine. I've been lifting on that, and I have no problems. Like, I'm.
My awareness, my acuity is completely on point, and I. And I have zero alcohol tolerance because I've never been drunk probably until this last week. And even then it was very manageable. It led me to believe something interesting about the human spirit.
It led me to almost. I almost believe that people who get super drunk are surrendering. Like, I could. There was a moment in time when I was drinking this where I was like, you know what?
I could see myself fight through it. Like, there's. There's sort of like this window where you get the perception that, look, I could. I could totally go toe to toe with this.
With this force right now, and I could overcome it. Like, I'm never gonna let myself be in a drunken stupor. I'm not slurring my words. I like.
You know what I mean? Like, that there. I feel like there. There is a tipping point where dudes just completely give in.
And, you know, I think that's my whole. Like, my whole foray into substances in general, which I have not been that experimental. But certainly cigarettes, the wine thing is recent for me. Coffee was definitely one of them.
I just enjoy the battle. I enjoy the internal battle of sort of that conflict resolution process and just not succumbing to the impulse is what I want to say. Coffee's crazy. Like, if you drink.
I think Voltaire was drinking, what, 12 cups of coffee. If you're drinking coffee all day, I mean, you are. You're literally in World War Three internally, you know. You know the feeling.
You're crawling out of your skin, you're jittery, and you're just fighting for dear life not to let it fucking consume you. I gotta light up another sig. I'm gonna take some questions. I want to treat this kind of like a food fight.
You guys can just take this any direction you want to go, and I. I'll steer the ship. What's up?
CALLER 1
Yo, big fam. Dude. All right, first thing I want to get off my chest when you said about drinking, right? And like fighting that force, toe to toe.
When I recently started working out more intensely, I realized that I could actually drink more and go more toe to toe with that force. I was at the bar and I was like, I could go, I'm looking at this cute girl, whatever, right? I'm like, dude, I could actually like drink more. You know what I mean?
Like before I was like three beers, but I was like five beers in. I'm like, I could actually drink a little more. And I think, you know, just playing with that intensity in life maybe just makes you want to level up in all aspects, even when you're fighting like spiritual forces. Number two, you had this point you made like a long time ago where you were saying that like a feat, males and like weird chicks and like, you know, the blue haired people are like our friends.
I want you to elaborate on that because I can smell you. Like I've hung out with a lot of like trans kids and like trans men, whatever. And it definitely changes the vibe of the party, you know, especially like when they like want to have sex with you or like, you know, you're about around a bunch of weird girls and they got the weird girlfriends, you know, it, the dynamics all change and I want to know how they're more so our friends because Enemies.
HOST
When I, when I said that the fringe culture, like the, the carnival freaks are our friends, not our enemies.
CALLER 1
Yeah, like I want to hear more on that. I feel like a lot of people want to like shun them out when I'm like, they're good people to hang out with. I don't know why.
HOST
First of all, first of all, they are. First of all, they are. I'm obviously very right leaning. However, understand something.
Let's understand something. First of all, let's get into it. Let's get into this for a second.
CALLER 1
Let's go.
HOST
All right, so the right, all of us are pretty health conscious. We love, you know, sustainable food. We envision green pastures like that. Right?
Who the this is critical thinking question. Who the are the arbiters and conservers of the fine arts, the culinary arts, the organic wines, the pastures, the farm to table restaurants? Who are the purveyors of that culture? The liberals.
Where the do we get, where the do we get most of our food from? The liberals. These people do not understand that a lot of the fine arts, a lot of the things, if you have high taste that you enjoy the aesthetics, the fashion. Who, the, who the are the progenitors of all that?
It's the liberals now. Yeah, I think it is lame and very mentally to completely. Look, man, there's, there's, there's goodness on both sides, okay? There's goodness on both sides.
But here, here's my point. The blue haired people, the women with tattoos, the sluttery, all that's going on right now, they are our friends because women are the signal. Women are the beacon in the sky as to where men have fallen. So my point is they're part of the next.
They're part of the necessary correction. And they're actually bringing us, see these, these, these, these women, these crazy feminists. And like this, like, they are, they're part of the acceleration. They are, they are the Leviathan.
They are pulling us down under the toe into the inevitable brink of destruction. We. Which is what we need to rebuild because we all know the culture that we're in right now, it's not sustainable. This shit's going to crash and burn and it's going to be spectacular.
So they are your friends because they are drawing you closer to the Ragnarok, to the, to the Great Deluge.
CALLER 1
The, like Dionysus, correct.
HOST
The Great Deluge. The great flood is coming and these people are your friends because they are ushering the era in quicker than it would ordinarily become. They're a necessary part of the correction, brother. So when I see these lunatic feminists, I'm like, I completely understand what you are craving for.
And what you're screaming for right now is a finer class of men with a more iron fist that are going to come in and smash the fuck out of this culture to a million pieces so it can be rebuilt. That's all they're crying for. They're crying for the genetic redistribution of a new warrior class of men who are going to come in and restore order. That's exactly where it's all headed.
It's a fact. It's going to happen and it's beautiful. Trump was the first. Trump was the tip of the iceberg.
Trump was not near mean enough.
CALLER 1
And yeah, he was smashing.
HOST
People thought he was me and people thought he was mean, right? He was, he was. What was he doing? He was disinterring the fourth estate.
He was an agitator. Great. However, don't understand what real mean is. Go read about General Custer if you want to see what a mean looks like.
So, and look like we can go, we can go on and on. With this. Anybody in politics right now who actually thinks a Republican will ever be president again during our lifetime is literally on crack. They, they'll never let it happen again.
It's elections are rigged. You're a. If you vote. It's not happening.
It's not happening.
CALLER 1
I've actually been telling a lot of liberals to get even more right wing, just to like, you know, sharpen their edge and just know a little more. Like I told this one trans girl, I was like, you know, originally she was a guy. I was like, you should like start writing more and journaling more. Because like that power, once you put yourself through those like, philosophies and stuff like that, you'll be unstoppable.
It won't even matter what people think you are because you're just gonna know so much. You're just going to maneuver in ways that nobody can stop.
HOST
Correct? Correct. So look, man, like you start to, you start to get to a better advantage point in life. You start making money, you know what I mean?
Your taste, your taste level starts to increase. Your, your aesthetic preferences increase. You want a forty, you want a forty thousand dollar throw rug for your living room? Who's gonna sell that to you?
It's a liberal. You want the finest, you want the finest cuisine on planet earth, you know who's gonna create that for you? A liberal. So this whole mentality of us versus them is really gay right now.
It's really gay because it's not even real, dude. It's all wwe. It's kayfabe. It's kay fabe.
It's lame. It's not real, dude. It's all, this is all manufactured politics is so gay. It's really gay.
CALLER 1
I got one more for you.
HOST
Go ahead, man. It's a good discussion.
CALLER 1
All right, so I had this. I was listening to you and you're talking about how Bruce Wayne is actually Batman. You know, when he puts on the mask, he becomes the person he really wants to become, right? I've been in this state all my life, right?
I'm 22 years old. I've been in the state all my life where I just, whatever I wanted, I got, you know. But I've gotten to a point probably when I was like 18, that I started taking like losses, you know, like actual losses. And then you win some, you lose some, you win some, you lose some.
Right now my losses are brutal, but my wins are fucking epic. And they're epic for me. You know, I may not get a million dollars in the wins. Hey, you know I try to throw parties and DJ and stuff like that.
I'm an artistic kid, you know what I mean? Make clothes, all that good stu stuff, right? So I'll get some wins done, you know where it feels like a win for me because I've been trying so hard to throw a party. I've been trying so hard to dj, you know what I mean?
And then it's a win because I'll make like 100 bucks. But the losses are like, you know, business ideas getting stolen from me. I had two business ideas stolen from me. You know what I mean?
They're. They're doing it. I know. And I've listened to your advice, and you're like, yeah, that's what's supposed to happen every day.
That's how I know I'm in America, and America makes me want to do it.
HOST
America is the land of the free, brother. It's the. It's the home. It's the home of piracy.
Everyone is jacking each other's ideas and bootstrapping it and spicing it up, man. This is the land that we live in. Understand something. America is tailor made for predators.
It is tailor made for people with the conqueror's mindset. It's tailor made for men who think outside the box. And I'm telling you, bro, those things, those attacks on your Persona, those attacks on your. On your work, those attacks on your bibliography.
You want that, bro. You want it?
CALLER 2
I know, bro.
HOST
You're welcome it.
CALLER 1
But how do I make these? I know I have to keep grinding, you know, but how do I make these wins?
HOST
Dude, grinding is a. Grinding is kind of gay. I've been kind of reversing my stance on this. I've been thinking about it.
Grinding makes you uncharismatic, as people can smell it on you. When you're in that grind mode and you rock up, you rock up to a smoky dude. It makes you very uncharismatic. You know?
I'll tell you something. I think most guys on here will agree with this. You make the most money and you get the most coochie when you're spiritually at rock bottom. It's just.
It's just weird how it works, man, because you're. You let. You let loose and you're not. You're not holding on so tightly to your.
CALLER 1
I've. I've had the best times, like, being broke as, but going to the club and, like, flirting with older chicks, like, that's how I've gotten most of my life.
HOST
I mean, I think, you know, I Think a lot of people can relate to that. I think a lot of people can relate to that.
CALLER 2
Yeah.
HOST
Your. Your thing, your thing kind of reminded me of something that I wanted to share as well. That.
CALLER 1
Go for it.
HOST
Okay, so there's a lot of dudes who are incompetent or their life sucks. And what they'll say is, and this is chick speak. This is chick speak. And it's, it's a mental, It's a mental trap a lot of guys work themselves into.
And they'll say something to the effect of we're all on different paths in life in due time. I'll get, I'll get there. We're all on different paths. Let me tell you something.
As a man, we are all on the same path. That's a very female oriented way of thinking. We, as men, we all want the same things. And you know what?
There are circuitous routes to get there. But ultimately we're all gunning and running for the same things in life. Men are all on the same path. No one is on a different path than you.
And if you don't view this, if you don't view life through this lens, it means you are getting steamrolled and run the over.
CALLER 1
Okay?
HOST
There are no different paths, brother. All roads lead. All roads lead to Rome. All men are on the same path.
Remember that. Remember that. Women are on different paths. Men are on the same path.
CALLER 1
Do you think it's because masculinity is on the physical plane?
HOST
It's on the horizontal plane, brother. All the spoils and riches and riches and enrichment and personal empowerment is on the horizontal plane for men. Women are vertical. Women are vertical creatures.
What I mean is a woman's beauty scales infinitely upward based on her beauty and grace and you know, how coquettish she is and how demurred. That's. It's a vertical horizon. Men go far, not high.
High is an illusion. Men go far. And what I mean by that is, as a man, we are all born nerds. We are all born dorks.
We're all born gay. There is nothing that separates you when you come out of the primordial ooze. How far you travel from your baseline is everything. It cements and crystallizes your aura in time and space.
And people will remember you for how hard you went, for how far you went, not how high you climbed. The horizontal plane is everything for men. It's horizontal, brother. It's rhizomic.
Go look that word up the rhizome. It's a. It's the branch of philosophy where there's like a bifurcation process where men split from that first personality that they have, the rhizome. It's a whole branch of philosophy.
It's interesting. What else was I gonna say? I had some thunder. Oh, speaking of which, dude, this is hilarious.
I was supposed to be fielding a ton of different questions, but I just feel like I'm just gonna take the reins here.
CALLER 1
Yeah, please.
HOST
One thing that I've noticed among very, very talented killers and just high successful, and I'm talking to everybody here, is war terminology. Like, oh, there's a war lexicon that these people use for very mundane events. Like when you're taking a piss, like, you know what I mean? Like anything that you do.
These guys talk in this very vivid imagery of war. You know, when you're gambling, you're not gambling, you're firing. When you're gambling, you're gunning. When you lose money, when you lose money, you need bullets in your gun, you're reloading.
All this, all this vivid imagery and terminology is what sculpts your mindset from a predator. It's. What's that? It's what distinguishes prey from the predator.
Prey. People do not talk like this. They don't talk like this. They feel funny.
But if it's natural to you and you've always been using word terminology, we're charging it. Like whatever the it is. Whatever the. Even when you're taking a.
You're dropping bombs. You know what I mean? It's like, it's just, it just permeates the entire fabric of the way of speaking. Everything is war based.
It. It creates a chip on your shoulder. It creates an artificial conflict that has to be resolved. I do think the language that we use in business is extremely important.
I laugh, I laugh in the face of people who do not understand that business is the closest cousin to war. It is the closest cousin to war. Of course it is. If you monitor the blood pressure, if you monitor the rapid eye movements, if you monitor the hormonal profiles of people that are tackling extraordinary projects, I promise you, it's almost identical to a who's sitting in trenches.
I'm not kidding. It's actually the hormonal profile has a very similar response. Commerce is the new jungle. Must be embraced.
Must be embraced. You have to be able to conduct commerce if you are a man. Have to. It's non negotiable.
CALLER 1
I'm learning that the hard way, man.
HOST
Yeah, non negotiable. I'm going to take Another question, man. I appreciate you.
CALLER 1
Thank you so much. Love, bro. Peace out.
HOST
Yo, Dior. What's up buddy?
CALLER 2
What's good, bro? How are you?
HOST
What's up man? Can you speak up?
CALLER 2
Yeah, let me one second. Just give me one moment. Hello? Can you hear me like this?
HOST
Huh?
CALLER 2
All right. So one thing that I've struggled with for like maybe five to seven years now is sleep. So I probably averaged like maybe about five hours like a night for five to seven years now. And I kind of struggle with the whole like size, kind of like two questions in one of it.
I struggle with the whole like science, verse, spirit, type of ideology, mindset, whatever you want to call it. And I feel like guilty when I get like, I feel like lazy.
HOST
Yep, it's a great, this is a great question. I'm glad it's fun. It's wearing to think, bro, because I was going to talk about this. I was actually ruminating over this morning.
Yeah, a couple things. Couple things. First of all, if you want to understand sleep, let's just do some, let's do some critical thinking. If you truly were designed to sleep a straight cold eight hours in a rigor mortise state where you're basically half, half dead, you wouldn't be here.
Your ancestors wouldn't be here. There were throughout history when you were, when people would, you know, sleep in the treetops or get some slumber in a cave if they didn't sleep with one eye open, you bet your ass the saber tooth tiger was gonna maul them to death. You, you were not designed. I don't give a what Huberman says.
You are not designed to sleep a cold straight eight hours. You're designed to sleep in intervals. I've experimented with this. Men of war have experimented with this.
Marines, Delta Force, the finest soldiers in the calvary in the armamentarium have all discussed this. You are designed to sleep in intervals, maybe three hour, three hour bursts. Get up, dude. I've been going for one o' clock in the morning walks.
I'll go spark up a Sig and I'll go walk a mile at 1am and then just go back to sleep. I feel incredible. It's the predator's mindset. Prey mindset is that you need, you need your eight hours.
You need to check your whoop, you need to check your vitals. That's, that's. I do not know a single productive. First of all, who sleeps eight hours a night?
Do not know one. Do not know when. I'll also tell you something else because I was Thinking about this, this morning, the measure of vitality. You don't need blood work, you don't need anything.
If I go to bed at 2 or 3 o' clock in the morning, as soon as the sun rises, I have to get up. Like, there's something in my body that beckons me. I cannot lay comatose while I know the sun is up. I just can't sleep.
I. I don't give a. If I'm on three hours, I have to get up and start my day. And I think that's the best vital sign of health as a man.
Like, if you legitimately are able to sleep in till like 10am with light peering through your blinds when the sun is up. Dude, there's some biological. There's some biological ruptures going on. That is not healthy at all.
At all. And I get it. There's the guys who say, well, if I go to bed at 2am and I get my eight hours and I get up at 10, I still got my eight hours. It's like, yeah, but the, the biological rhythm is up.
A healthy man wants to spring out of bed as soon as the sun is rising. Nobody can convince me that's not true because I've recognized it in myself when I'm bustling and I'm clicking on all cylinders. I have to get up, have to. I have.
There's too much to do. There's too much to do. There's too much life force to extract. Why the.
I don't understand how people can piss away their entire morning. Your day's gone. Like my boy. I was, I was joshing him the other day.
He slept until like 10:30. I was like, hey, bro, you might as well take this day off your calendar. I was like, go into your iPhone and just delete this day. This day doesn't exist for you.
It's over. It's already fucking 11am Your day is roasted, buddy. It's done. I remember.
I remember Richard Marcinko. He was a trainer for the Navy seals. He had a quote. I forget where I read it, but he was like, we get more done before 5am than you get done in a whole day.
And I love that quote. I love that quote. And I don't love it from the grind set perspective, because that's not really what I'm talking about. I'm just talking about being solar charged.
And when that sun, you know what I mean, splashes the landscape, your ass should be vertical. You should be on your feet pacing, you know what I mean? Cooking up Whatever your dreams and goals are. So that's my two cents on that.
I think interval sleep is, is the apex for men. I do not think you're designed to sleep a cold eight hours. I think you're supposed to do it in intervals. Get up, crack open a book under a kerosene lamp, like whatever the you gotta do, bro.
But I'm telling those two three hour bursts are phenomenal. Especially if you have low systemic inflammation and your diet's on point and you're not carving up. That's been the one benefit of the carnivore diet for me is usually I'm just real strict carnivore. I don't eat vegetables, I don't eat fruit, I just eat meat mostly.
I've noticed my need for sleep drastically reduces because there's just no systemic inflammation to flush out from the body. If you carb up, you're gonna need more sleep for sure.
CALLER 2
Yeah, that's, that's facts. Because if I go to bed at like 4 or 5, I just.
HOST
No, done, done. Gotta get up at 6, 6, 30. 100%, 100%. It's vital, man. It's that life force.
It's undeniable.
CALLER 2
Yeah, because I don't know, like I, I'm kind of up because sometimes I want to stay up late because for whatever reason, but then I won't sleep because it's so late. And I've gone like 10 days without sleep because of like that trying to like get my circadian back together. I just went like two or three days without sleep like days ago.
HOST
Dude, it's, it's, it's insane how just the perception because the culture has hammered it and beaten into, beat it into you for so long that if you don't get eight hours of sleep, you can't perform. I think people really psych themselves out. It's, it's really weird. Like a guy will tell himself, he's like, I know I'm not on eight hours, but I feel good.
And then he just won't try as hard that day because he feels like some of his wheels are going to crack. And it's like, dude, I've always been, no matter what. I, I remember there was one day I stayed up for 24 straight hours on a. I was on a beach.
I literally didn't sleep for 24 hours. And I tested myself and I went in to the gym and I front squatted a PR and I snatched 300 pounds. And I, no joke, never closed my eyelids. It was like probably in the 26th hour.
And I had no problem with it because mentally I just refused to let that creep set in that I cannot perform or function without a certain metric being hit. Like that's the kind of mindset that you want to build. The people, people are, this culture is very pervasive. People have really let these metrics demolish their, you know, their natural biological inclinations.
Like dude, I mean come on man, we're men. We, we have such a range. There's so, there's just, there's so much opportunity within the male hardware. The hardware is so durable on the male body.
I have, dude, I am destroyed on a weekly basis. My joints always hurt, I'm always up. But I'm always performing at the highest level. Why is that?
Because the body's meant to be sacrificed. The artists know this. The artists know this. The artists cannibalized through their own flesh to produce the art that you love.
The cinemas, the film, any kind of books, like everything you've read that you love. You understand that a male brutalized his, his flesh. He, he self flagellated to produce that work for you. You know what I mean?
It's the ultimate offering. So yeah dude, this mint condition male culture where everyone just wants to be a GI Joe in the plastic box. Body's meant to be run into the ground. It's just.
CALLER 2
Yeah, that's so good to hear man, I'll watch it. Like I just watched a video yesterday and it was, it was just talking about how important sleep is for testosterone. Muscle just being like on top of your like libido.
HOST
Come on man, come on, come on bro. I was drinking, I was drinking wine every day this week, multiple bottles a day. And I was going into the gym and I was ferocious and then some fucking. One of my boys was like, dude, did you see the study that muscle synthesis is, is inhibited when you.
I'm like dude, off my muscle synthesis, My muscle synthesis is just fine. Like I'm just, I'm inoculated, you know what I mean? Like my mindset is so inoculated from these admonishings from the mainstream. It's all, it's all man.
We are the architects of our reality.
CALLER 2
So I don't know if it's like the sleep but like I feel like I've gotten kind of burnt out. I don't like because I've literally gone days, just recently without sleeping for a few days and I lowkey feel burnt out. So how do you think I should like get my kind of high energy? I do the diet.
Well, I do all that, but I like don't sleep and I don't know, it's definitely a mental thing, but I'm trying to get myself like really high.
HOST
It is a mental thing. It's not. Look, not being able to fall asleep is not a good sign at all. Because if you're master, if you're master and commander of your life as a man, you should be able to command your body to do whatever the you want it to do.
Like I've always said, you can measure the mark and quality of a man by how fast he could put himself to sleep. That's a very true heuristic. Very good men, good solid foundational men with a strong constitution. They are able to command themselves to sleep very easily.
And I do think that there is, if you're having trouble sleeping, I have a feeling that there is some, some unconscious, you know, entanglement there that you need to work through because you should be able to tell your body, to instruct your body on what to do. That's a betrayal. That's a betrayal of the body. You know what I mean?
And that's like. There's kind of nothing worse as a man than when your own body betrays you. It's a very, very helpless feeling. Very helpless feeling.
But you know what, I was going to tweet this the other day. I don't think I've met an extraordinary man who has not beat some sort of tenacious or pernicious physical ailment. If you noticed all great men, even throughout history, they all have one thing in common. There was a sickness, there was a physical sickness or an ailment that they had to sort through and they had to overcome it.
Something about bodily sickness awakens men to God. It's interesting. Like when you are deathly ill or you have a horrible flu, or you are under immense amount of physical strain, that's when start praying to God and want to be left the alone in solitude and silence. It's a, it's a, it's a spiritual monastery.
It's a spiritual monastery. And I think I do have a suspicion that's why men are drawn to low level toxicity and poisons like cigarettes, like drinking. Because men, I think unconsciously understand and comprehend that when you are experiencing low level poison, it's, there's a hormetic effect, there's an up regulation, there's sort of like this, this counter response where you kind of feel enlivened. All men know what I'm talking about.
When you're slightly hungover or if you're jacked up on stems, there is sort of this spiritual reconciliation. All men have discussed this, by the way, in. In myriad ways. Shakespeare.
I mean, just go read. All the greats. In many ways, they're discussing this very thing. They're just putting different metaphors on the table to describe what I just said.
Anyway, brother, I actually gotta jump off. We are going to continue this very soon.