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HOST
Rolling some sticks real quick. All right, so we're going to come out of the gates this morning and we're going to do some kind of, like, miscellaneous musings thinking about fatherhood and parenting in general. And as someone who is a father, and I've had my boots on the ground, I've been very, very close to an entire pregnancy. And I've also raised a very small child.
So I know exactly how this works. Let me tell you something. Women are beasts. A woman who truly is connected to her feminine spirit and is not annihilated by SSRIs.
They're. They're monsters. They're monsters.
CALLER 2
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HOST
The commitment. The commitment to actually breastfeeding and raising a small child is absurd. Like you, the average man cannot comprehend the level of commitment and responsibility to a woman who literally devotes her entire life to nurturing and nourishing a small baby. It's incredible.
And the average woman in society has had those instincts completely vitiated and ripped out of her. You know, like the average woman is just gonna hand off her newborn to a nanny so she can go watch Netflix and sneak out in the middle of the night and go on a Tinder day. Shit's insane. But a woman who's truly devoted to her offspring, there's nothing more sensational.
And the reason I bring this up is because I want to make it clear that nature was never meant to make the relationship between a baby and the mother and the father difficult. When people talk about difficult pregnancies and having difficult, colicky children, you up somewhere, pal. Big time. Like, if you have a cranky baby who's constantly freaking out and flipping out you up.
It's the bottom line. Because if you anticipate a baby's needs and you always stay on the cutting edge, they are such a pleasure to deal with. They're complete pleasure. They will work with you.
They will 100 accompany you and work with you and make it so easy from everything to sleep to signaling to you that they need to eat, all that. They will make it so easy. But the thing is, is the trust cannot be severed. And this is my point with offspring, is it's incredibly important that the trust is not broken.
And every time a parent shoves a pacifier in a baby's mouth or gives them a rubber nipple because the mom's too lazy to breastfeed naturally, so she's gotta fill jugs in the refrigerator every time you use a rubber nipple, guess what? You are destroying trust between you and the child. And even babies will Lash out. They'll lash out.
But the mom who dedicates 24 hours a day attached at the hip, that is your road dog. You know what I mean? Your baby's in the motorcade attached to your hip 24 hours a day. That is God's work.
And I have seen the results. I have seen the temperament in babies where the mom is that committed. I mean, she literally has to have that titty ready 24 hours a day to get to pop it out. Don't matter where she is.
And that level of dedication and love to a child is one of the most beautiful things you can witness on this earth. If a woman is truly dedicated to that process, I mean, it's. It's massive amount of work. She literally can never get a moment to herself, and she doesn't want a moment to herself.
So in those formative years, even little things like exporting a baby into a crib is absurd. Destroying trust. Destroying trust. Because newborns and the young, they want to feel that safety and that sanctity and that warmth of being next to the mom or the dad, whatever, but they need to cuddle up and be snugging with you when they're super little.
And if you're a selfish and you are so desperate to get your sleep so you're throwing a baby across the room in a crib, you're a. You are literally a. And you are annihilating trust between you and your child. Because those huge crying episodes, I'm telling you, that's a myth.
They don't happen if you anticipate their needs and you stay on top of, you will just have a flawless time raising them. And then you have trust. And then you can. Look, it's obvious where I'm going with this.
Once that foundation is set, then you can start doing things like homeschooling. And guess what? They're 100 times more receptive to the knowledge that you're gonna impart because they fucking trust you. Do you understand?
I do think homeschooling probably does accelerate the fuck out of the learning curve, specifically because the child just trusts the parent. They trust the source of the information, so the grooves in their brain are 100% gonna act as like a Venus fly trap and capture information better. Mine's gonna be a steel trap. Whereas if you offload a child to some Porky the Pig looking in a schoolroom who eats donuts and cupcakes and is literally 50 pounds overweight, how the is that a verifiable trusted source to be teaching Your kids.
It's not walk into any public school or classroom is it is beyond reprehensible the condition of these teachers. I don't trust these one bit. So it's all about trust. It's all about laying that foundation.
Puff of a sig. I don't think I took a breath on that rant. Literally. That was like a 10 minute breath hold.
I also want to dispel some controversy about that last tweet that I did, which is a absolute gem in Aladdin's cave. So if you're on the, if you're on the death march to the top in any kind of endeavor, you. You really want to do everything in your power to make sure that your edge does not get beveled. Do you understand?
You do not want to ever bevel your edge. And one of the fastest ways to bevel it is to self reflect and stop and introspect. It's just a fact. I don't make the rules, I just report the rules.
Because when you are in an ascended state of being and you're taking swift and vicious action, okay, when you stop to try to analyze yourself or understand your inner workings, you know what I'm saying? Like you're trying to understand the inner workings of a grandfather clock. So you start looking at the gears, you start picking apart things. What happens is, is you inevitably, when you get to know yourself too well, okay?
And this is a huge problem. Like when a man dives so deep in his own psyche and analyzes every which way and tries to understand the truth about how he's made his, his very constitution. What is that substance made of? First of all, every great philosopher who's done this has had a psychotic break.
I want to say Jung did I know Freud did I even think Nietzsche drove himself insane. Self analysis eventually will literally blow a fuse in your head. That's number one. Okay?
Now there's. You could argue, you could play devil's advocate and argue that eventually strengthened the philosophy of the said individual once they got through it. But let's be real. Most of us ain't engraving our philosophy on stone tablets.
Most of us are playing the game of capitalism. And in the game of capitalism, introspection ain't your fucking friend. Tell you that right now. Because here's what happens if you learn too much about yourself.
There are many moments in life where you need to hit the override button. There's going to be doubt, there's going to be fear. There's going to be instruments in your mind that just simply don't want you to take a leap of faith. And what happens is, is when you're aware too much of your weaknesses, of your strengths, when you're aware of these things and they're always kind of floating around in your conscious mind, your body will naturally put brakes on to protect you.
So there's going to be times where you'd want to slam that. You want to slam the joystick as hard as you can forward. And there's just a spool of yarn that's just gonna choke the gears of the machine that you're trying to whip up, you understand? Because you're just gonna be too hyper aware of.
Of the doubt. It's gonna come into your view and it's gonna completely shatter and up your ability to just. And that's the biggest problem because, look, learning is not unconnected from movement anyway. So when you're taking a swift and vicious action, there's going to be natural epiphanies and revelations that just settle upon you regardless.
So there's zero reason to force it. There's zero reason to force it. And my overarching point is, the truth is not practical. It doesn't do anything for you to understand your weaknesses.
It doesn't. What, like, what does that actually accomplish? Zero. Nothing.
All it's gonna do is slow you down. You know what I mean? And on the other end of that coin, it's equally brutal. As soon as you name one of your talents, it's incredible how that runs for cover.
It's incredible. The minute you start naming the reason why you're good at what you do, you're. You're done. You're eviscerating the magic.
You know, I've. Dude, I've seen this over and over again in professional sports, big names. Baseball's a good example. Baseball players will go through some of the craziest slumps you've ever seen in your life where they literally just cannot connect the bat to the ball.
It's unreal. Like they literally will be up at the plate and just unravel for like 25 games in a row. And you know what? The first thing they do, and modern academia is a huge.
Plays a huge part, and this is a huge culprit. First thing they do is go home and start analyzing the mechanics of their swing, start getting up at the plate. Now they're in their own head, own worst enemy, thinking about the swing. But before the slump started, they weren't thinking about the swing.
They were just up there playing freely, having a great Time and all their faculties were funneled and channeled together as a bundled unit. And that's why they were crushing the ball. But the minute they start hyper fixating on the reason why the swing is broken, guess what? It gets even more broken.
And then it gets even more broken. And now every time they're up at the plate, they're thinking about every little cue that they can to make sure they're hitting frozen ropes into left center field and it just ain't working. And that's ultimately what a slump is. A slump is a product of intro inspection challenge you to debunk that one.
It always happens like that. And it's also because this is. Everything is paradoxical on the flip end of that. It's also how you rape a hot streak.
When you're on a hot streak and everything you are doing is just clicking all cylinders, people panic. People get very terrified when things are working too well and they want to stop and reflect on it, and they want to kind of reverse engineer it and understand the inner makings of it. You know what I mean? They want to go into the Magisterium and start figuring out how the is this clicking so well.
They want to understand it. And then the minute they try to understand the essence of evanesces away from you, it evanesces away from you. It evaporates before your very eyes. And the magic is over in that moment.
And it's not coming back until you do a little more living and you figure out how to put your mind to sleep again. And then you get on another hot streak, and then you ride that hot streak, and then you start evalu evaluating it again and it disappears. This is the cycle. This is the creation destruction cycle.
This is the Kali Yuga. This is the real Kali Yuga. You understand? And look, I'm gonna tell you something right now that'll change your paradigm for life, all right?
I used to think that masculinity was about searching for the truth. I used to think that. I used to think I got psyoped. I used to think that the masculine loves to uncover truth under every stone.
You know what I mean? Going the deepest galleyways down into the conspiracy holes trying to fucking uncover what's really going on. It's not the case, my friends. You know what the real fucking masculine imperative is?
I'll tell you right now. The masculine don't give a fuck about the truth. The masculine creates the fucking truth. Creates the truth.
Taking your piss ant ideas inside your mind and bringing that into a visual representation, into the world literally creating truth out of thin fucking air. Creating products that people use. Creating ideas that motherfuckers will surf into infinity. That's fucking masculine as hell.
Taking your fantasies and making them real. The mask. The truth doesn't fucking matter because the truth is malleable. There are ideas that will come in and bully inferior ideas.
That happens all the fucking time. There are markets, there are products that come in and bully the fuck out of other products and push them down because some masculine figure is creating truth. You know what I mean? Look, man, this is, this is a very, very practical philosophy I'm giving you.
There's. There are motherfuckers right now, 10 years behind me, 26 year olds, 25 year olds devouring my philosophy who are gonna smoke my ass. And in 15 years you are going to come in and destroy my philosophy. Which is the, which is the whole purpose of this, this game of cat and mouse.
You know what I mean? I mean, look, when you're, when you're little, one of the greatest phenomenons of being a, a man in general, especially in your teens, there's idols, there's P.E. you look up to when you're young for sure. And then as you gain power and you stratify and you straddle the line and you start to gain power and you start to climb and get social mobility. One of the most bizarre phenomenons is when you actually can physically see yourself passing those you looked up to just 10 years, just 10 years before.
Objectively better than the. That you were studying in their represent rep. Respected respective field. It's one of the most incredible phenomenons.
And the way that you surf that is by creating truth, literally creating reality. What the is more powerful than that? As a man? Like why, why would you search for truth when you can make the truth?
You can change history, you can rewrite history, you can be a victor, you can be fucking triumphant and literally etch your fucking engrave your philosophy in a stone tableture that people will fucking purview for hundreds of years. What the fuck is more powerful than that? What the fuck has the truth done for you lately? Okay, so you went fucking five layers deep and understood the real fucking reason why fucking Israel's at war with Palestine.
The fuck is that done for you? Fuck is that done for you? What about etching your fucking legacy in stone? Like why aren't you out here doing that?
Because creating truth is hard and it's competitive as. But capitalism gives everybody the equal opportunity to do that. That's why capitalism is so badass. It's a bunch of out here creating truth, creating realities that you live in.
The conspiracy. Get this other. Holy. This is the most requested questions I've ever seen.
Probably like 25% of the space. We're just gonna take detours and this is gonna be really, really, really rough. Just the way we like it. Let's get Abraxas up here.
Yo, Abraxas, what's up, buddy?
CALLER 4
And really I really liked in everything especially for me getting like last month was very spiritual and trying to. I won't get into all that, but I'm sitting here in Brooklyn, New York place you hate, obviously.
HOST
Brooklyn. I bet you I would actually with Brooklyn.
CALLER 1
Okay.
CALLER 4
I mean I'm. I'm finding. I'm finding dive bars and everything. Finding people that I can connect to that aren't too liberal mind.
I guess for an easy question. How do you feel about. I guess you. You mentioned legacy.
And I'll tie it to that. Hypnotizing yourself almost to. Well, hypnotizing yourself one and then two. I guess using tattoos or something to help fuel your mindset.
HOST
Yeah, it's a good question. I mean, I'll tell you right now, I regret the tattoos that I got. I got them when I was like 18. Very impulsive moves on my part.
Very, very powerful quote that I have on my arm, but it never needed to be scribbled on my arm. I'll tell you this, man. Look, men are an offensive species, okay? And we are impalers.
We impale things that are in front of us. We impale obstacles. Which is why I am disgusted by the prospect of introspection and self reflection. Because look, if you're a smart cookie, you're gonna get real world feedback as you're taking action, which is a hundred times stronger than introspection.
I've really never sat in a room and tried to understand myself, but I likely have a better understanding of myself than 99% of people just because I've lived at the edge for so long. So look, let's reverse engineer some wisdom here. They say defense wins championships, right?
CALLER 4
Yeah, but that's the.
HOST
But that's the thing about life. You don't have to win championships or get gold medals to live a phenomenal apex life. Because look, most people, most men are going to travel the whole miles they need in life. It's just that the elites, the very, very, very top, the cream of the crop, the creme de la creme, the most successful cover, every last little inch and micro millimeter.
That's the separation. The separation is actually a lot closer than you think. It's just the guys at the top, they don't leave any base uncovered. And so my point is, is just by playing offense, the offensive strategy that I'm bestowing upon you right now of just the introspection and just going forth is that you can get like 95 of the way there and you end up speed running a lot of you end up speed running a lot of, and skipping a lot of nonsense and a lot of bosses along the way.
And you end up just fighting a more challenging boss who might whoop your ass and slaughter you. But you're not gonna die. That's kind of the point. So just by playing offense, you're very vulnerable.
You're, you're, you're light on armor. You're light on armor, but you don't need armor, you don't need defense. If you can just drop 140 points a night, you understand? If you can just rain threes and drop 140 points a night, you don't need defense.
CALLER 4
Okay,
HOST
you get it. You get it. But here's the thing. Life for men is very much about outrunning history.
It's about outrunning yourself. Because look, mistakes are way easier to clean up. Once you get successful, then you can go back and sweep up the messes that you created. Now obviously you want to create as few messes along the way as possible, but once you do get to the top, you can clean up a drastic trail of mistakes that have been left behind.
And that is what most men are afraid to do. Most men are bringing out the broom, they're bringing out the dustpan and they're cleaning up mistakes along the way. And what they don't understand is they're beveling their edge. Now this is some crazy synchronicity.
I don't give a if anybody on the space doesn't believe me or not. But someone did link me. Some billionaire painter put together like a 32 bullet point list of things that insights that he had learned along his path. And number 11, he said something to the effect of what I said yesterday and I did not see this post.
And I put that on my child's life. I did not see the post. It's just the synchronicity was flawless. He said self reflection ruins your edge.
And then someone linked it to me and I just happened to come up with the same insight, which was unbelievable. This happens all the time. My DM is flooded with passages. People will go deep into the Anals, some of these dusty tomes, philosophers I've never even heard of.
And they'll screenshot a passage and be like, yo, you said something similar. And I'll just chuckle to myself, I'm like, yeah, of course. Because when you live at the edge, you're just going to come across these insights. It's inevitable.
I never had to read it, you know what I mean? You're just standing at the edge of time. Of course I'm going to trounce upon that shit. So my point is, everyone is so obsessed with playing defense and armoring themselves and being cautious.
The people who get punished the most in life are the cautious. Are the cautious. The right lane is the most dangerous lane on the freeway for a reason. It's the slow lane.
It's the slow lane. It's the who are driving slow. They're, they have no athletic prowess, they have no dexterity, they're not adroit, they're not agile, they're triple boosted driving in the slow lane. That's where all the accidents happen for a reasonable stress.
And all the stress because the people who are the most cautious in life get when they get dealt damage, it comes double and triple. It comes double and triple. Because I do believe, I do believe the thing you are most cautious about preventing this is a man. This is written in a man's destiny, okay?
In the male blood and the male hardware. If you are a man, I promise you, I promise you subconsciously, you will 100% naturally gravitate, gravitate towards making your worst fear come true. Whatever your worst fear is as a man, at some point during your journey you will have a staredown with that fear. You have to, you have no choice.
There's something in your subconscious, it's so existentially tormenting to hold on to that, that every man eventually goes into a fucking showdown with their worst fear. And that's why I've always said you got to be careful what you fear because you will make it come true. It's a self fulfilling prophecy. I've never seen a single man on earth not be able to avoid this.
It's like the guy who tries to design his entire life around not getting cheated on, guaranteed gets cheated on. The universe, the universe is so counterintuitive by the way, which is why life is so majestic and interesting. Because there's just so many things that just genuinely don't make sense. There's such a reconciliation of opposites, which is why life is so exciting.
Because you can chase these thrills Forever. And you'll never reconcile them. You know what I'm saying? It's like playing tic tac toe.
It's like you're almost just gonna always be in a stalemate with the universe. Like, you ain't winning tic tac toe with the universe. And back on to my point about life and about playing offense. You know, the reason why I really don't like the game of chess and the game.
The game of chess is not a game of life at all is because chess penalizes adhd. Chess penalizes adhd. When I play a game of chess, I get so bored that I'll just start doing really grandiose moves. I'll like.
I'll just do stupid after a while because I just want to see if I can get lucky. And it'll work like a 1 out of 10 times. It'll literally work like 1 out of 10 times. But life doesn't work like that.
Life often rewards the inability to focus on patterns. You know what I mean? Like, there's a lot of power in pulling the plug, pulling the plug on a mess that you've created. Whereas in chess, if you create a mess for yourself, you pretty much ain't getting out of it.
You know what I mean? Like, in the game of chess, if you up early or you up mid game, whatever, chances that you unbury yourself are pretty slim to none. But life's the opposite. Life rewards you heavy sometimes when you bury yourself.
When you bury yourself big and pull the plug and try to figure out the message you've created. And so my point is, is offense is always the name of the game. Sometimes it's not about salvaging the position that you're in. Sometimes it's completely just being a cat chasing a laser, having a stormy mind and just rocking.
Anyway, I've said this before, and I do believe this, by the way. I think the peak male experience is having a very healthy body and having a very stormy mind. Like, I don't think clarity of purpose, I don't even think clarity of mind is necessary for men. I believe that the most thriving men on earth are.
Their mind is very, very clouded. And I think it's bombarded constantly with stimulation and dopamine and entertainment. And their mind is under constant attack. And that allows them to live from the heart.
It allows them to tap into the beatings of the heart, which will take you further than any little intellectual head game that you can play with yourself. And so there's guys who just constantly need a quiet mind, a Quiet environment to work. That's chicken. That just means you don't have enough on your plate.
I can't tell you the last time I could even think straight. Like, when I flipped open my phone just now to turn on this spaces, I had not one iota of a scarik of a clue what I was gonna say. And once I start talking, my heart starts doing the talking. My mind is clouded, like, 24 hours a day, which is just the way I like it.
CALLER 4
And I think that works better when you think of, like, Elon Musk. He's a billionaire with four or five companies and all that. He has a lot going on, and it's like he's psycho, but he's not thinking about it. You know, it's like, you can't beat somebody that's thinking too hard or you can't.
You'll lose to somebody that's not thinking that hard.
HOST
10,000%. 10,000%. He. That guy doesn't get enough credit. That guy is swarmed and under attack 24 hours a day.
And he loves it. You gotta love it. That's why I've always said you got to be a sicko to win. You do.
You have to be a sicko, very, very sick puppy to win. It's just. That's just how it is. Just nature rewards that.
Anyway, bro, thank you. I'm gonna keep it moving.
CALLER 4
Thank you.
CALLER 1
Some new faces up here.
HOST
Yo, nick. Nick, let's go. Son. Max, what's up, buddy?
Son Max, yo, can you hear me? What's up, bro?
CALLER 1
Yo, what's.
CALLER 5
What's good, bro? Can you hear me, brother?
HOST
Yes.
CALLER 5
Go ahead, man. I just had a. I had my first. I'm kind of circling back to your starting point on just.
You know, it is amazing seeing the mom kind of breastfeed. It is crazy experience, but I just want to see how you. You're kind of raising your little ones. It's a first for me.
Obviously, with my son, I'm kind of. I don't know if I'm pushing them too hard. Like I'm putting on him on his stomach and trying to have him get after it. But, you know, the mom sees him crying, trying to get him off right away.
So I'm kind of seeing how you're navigating that. That kind of. That whole dynamic and how quickly you're pushing it, pushing your kid. I don't know if you have a son or a daughter, but that's kind of wanted to pick your brain on that and see how quickly I should be Pushing them or just, you know, take my foot off the pedal a little bit, let them grow up first.
And I don't know, just going to kind of want to hear your thoughts on that.
HOST
I have a son and I'm having another one. But yeah, man, it's, it's look, it's. Appreciate it. Kids.
Kids make it easy on you, man. When that trust is established, they make it so easy on you. They're very compliant and they work very synergistically. There should be zero friction between a baby and the parents whatsoever.
And if there is, like I said, you got to go back and trace the thread into the maze and figure out what, what the going wrong. And typically it's because one of the parents wants a break and there's no breaks. Like it's a, like I said, it's for the mother, especially when they're very young. It's literally a 24 hour gig, never ending.
And when you, when you talk about pushing him, I mean, look man, I said this on the other spaces and I will, I will die on this hill. I do ultimately believe that nature is a thousand times more potent than nurture. There's only so much guidance you can give to a child. You know, you have children not to make a clone of yourself in my opinion, but you have children so they can have their own unique experience on this earth.
And it's very bizarre in my opinion. It's one of the most bizarre human traits that is very, very prominent I've seen. Almost every family goes through something like this where a parent wants their child to be something that the child just doesn't want to be. And I find that to be extremely weird.
I have never had the human experience of wanting something more for someone than they've wanted for themselves. Cannot resonate with that whatsoever because I find it to be very intrusive and I find it to be playing God. Who the are you to interfere with someone's life path and say what they should be doing? You know what I mean?
Even like I got a DM yesterday, some guy was lamenting to me about how his younger sibling is a loser. Younger sibling is languishing at home. He's just. His parents didn't push him hard enough when he was a kid.
And I was like, dog, who the are you? Like, what the. Like if the only people who start to, to veer their eyes towards what other are doing are people who are stuck themselves. That's what I want to say.
That's the underlying psychology. It's like when a Gets stuck himself. He'll start to look at his siblings, his friends, his peers, start criticizing their style and method. And what I think he's trying to do really subconsciously is he's trying to get them kick started so they can be the guinea pig.
He wants them to try something so he can see what the results are and then he can see if he can proceed. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't. It's very.
Every blood is king. Blood is king. Like there's some forces of nature that are so powerful it doesn't matter how much you brainwash them, how bad their upbringing bringing was, how far you bury them into the core of the earth. Some seeds are just destined to grow no matter what.
And it's like you could talk about upbringing, you can talk about hostile environments, you can talk about all this till you're blue in the face. But the reality is some life forms are just so goddamn tenacious that they're gonna figure out and become what they were supposed to be no matter what you put them through, no matter how many hoops of fire they had to go through in their youth. You know what I mean? You could put them through Barnum and Bailey's circus, they're still gonna figure it out.
I've seen this over and over again and some of us are a little bit more unfortunate and they won't. But that's nature. That's the circle of life. And so I, as a respecter of nature, allow people to learn the lessons they need to learn.
Who the am I to interfere on someone's path and teach them lessons they're not ready to learn? Doesn't make any sense. Doesn't make any sense. And I think that it would bring us a lot of peace if we stop turning our eye to what other are doing, to focus on ourselves.
Because you can only lead by example anyway. I mean, it's just the stark reality of the situation is you can only lead by example. And if want to jump on and are inspired by that, then wonderful. But if they're not man, I don't believe in imposition.
I don't believe in imposing anything on anybody. It's a absurd. Because then people lash out. It's kind of like I had a tweet that I deleted because I didn't think, I didn't think the common populace even deserved to hear this.
But it's true. I said you cannot instill a work ethic into a kid as a parent. And that's a fact. Like if a Kid is naturally defiant and rambunctious and rebellious towards authority.
There's parents out there who think forcing them to rake leaves and do chores is somehow gonna magically comport their personality to have a good work ethic and build discipline and character. It's not true. If a kid is naturally miserable doing chores, raking leaves, whatever the you have them do, and you are forcing them to do that in the name of discipline and character, I'm telling you right now, they're going to start lashing out behind your back. They're going to start fucking being rebellious behind your fucking back as a parent.
You're going to start seeing character patterns, and the defiance is going to bleed out in one way or shape or form. Now, some kids obviously have a natural predilection for that shit, and that's great. That should be fostered. But I'll be damned if I'm going to sit here and make my kids do slave labor in my house when they naturally cut out that way.
That doesn't build, Jack. All that does. Yet again. It goes back to my point about breaking trust, severing trust.
And that's all you have with your kids. It's. It's like once you up your trust with your kids and you start forcing them to do that they're not designed to do, they just end up resenting and hating you, and then you lose all of your authority anyway. So it's like ruling with an.
With a. Iron fist sometimes, especially in a household, is a massive mistake. Anyway, thank you for the question. I.
I've wanted to address that for a while, and I would just always forget on these spaces.
CALLER 5
Appreciate you, brother.
HOST
What's up, Nate?
CALLER 2
Yo, what's up, Brute? All right. I was thinking, like, I see you delete tweets sometimes, and I know you're a huge fan of just letting the past go. Just whatever is there, just leave it behind.
I'm curious why you delete tweets.
HOST
Keeps my audience on their toes, man. Sometimes I like to reward the people who have notifications on, like, my loyal core, my die hards, and I just. Sometimes I'll throw out some glitter real quick. Yeah, man.
It's just kind of a way of gamifying the platform and making it a little bit more fun. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes I'll just litter a jam in the street, and then I feel like just sweeping it up.
CALLER 2
Totally. Yeah, I. I think actually that leaves even more of an ability or even more of, like, a rare rareness. I think people screenshotting it actually does something even more and then they're anticipating that, so I totally see that.
HOST
Yeah, man. It's kind of like a pop up shop, you know, it's like just dropping a random flashbang and those that were fortuitous enough to put their hands on it, get it, and those that weren't much how life works, you know what I mean? But then sometimes that works in reverse. Sometimes they say, you know, early bird gets the worm, but second mouse gets the cheese.
So it all depends, but. Good question, man. What's up, Apollo?
CALLER 1
What's up? Can you hear me?
HOST
Yeah, I can hear you.
CALLER 1
Cool. Yeah, man, like I've, I've been following you for a while. The first spaces I just kind of joined and. Yeah, you just said some like, I, I, I'm, I'm very, like your, your whole, I don't know if you call it a philosophy or whatever, but your whole sort of way of thinking and just, you know, way of articulating and everything is very sort of unique to me just because it very much mirrors a lot of how I see and how I, I process it as well.
You know, just sort of that masculine urge to create truth, throw yourself into the mess and figure it out, you know, fist swinging and everything else like that. But like I was sort of going through, I don't know if you, I guess, yeah, slump. That's a perfect way to call it, you know, something of a slump. Just like a really small sort of quick one that came about, jumped on the spaces, was listening for like maybe 30 seconds, immediately just like snapped out of it.
CALLER 3
I was like, what the.
CALLER 1
Yeah, I remember, you know what I mean? I remember like how I normally think and I guess I just like, I just wanted to sort of, you know, pose a question out there. Not, not because I think you specifically even have the answer, but just as an interesting question, that mindset of like, you know, not, not dulling your edge, not beveling your, your edge, I think you call it. And you know, just fist swinging and just going out there guns blazing, you know, like, as a man, like, yes, that is when I'm at my peak.
That's when like I'm just making things happen. I'm not introspecting. Like everything is just popping off. You know, I make a mistake, I don't care.
Like that's, that's, that's, that's where I love to be. But like inevitably they're like something always just, you know what I mean? Like, there's always like, I always trip up, like always. And I just want to know, like, do you, do you experience that, too?
And like, how, how long? Because I, I, I, I basically came to this, to this idea. The, if that's gonna happen inevitably, then I guess the real, the real solution is figuring out how the. Do I get back up from it as quick as possible.
Do you get what I mean?
HOST
Well, that's, well, that's how life works.
CALLER 1
Yeah.
HOST
Like, let's go to the Mac. Let's go to the macro level for a second. Let's look at anyone who has basically life hacked their way around normalcy and homeostasis. Look at who have immense fame.
Let's look at fabled who are the best at their craft. Let's look at professional athletes, people who have billions of dollars, right? Those are all those people hacked the game of life because none of that's natural. Fame is not natural.
Billions of dollars is not natural. Being widely renowned, it's not natural. And if you've noticed, anyone who has sustained a prolonged period of euphoria or someone who has indulged in pleasure for too long inevitably breaks something within themselves. And this is why I've always said, you know, you look at these archetypal figures.
Look at, like, a Mike Tyson, these, these who had all this wealth and success, there is a point in time where they end up renouncing materialism and they want to go back to primal source, you know what I mean? That motherfucker was sitting in cages petting pigeons and shit after nuking, like, 500 mil. I think Don King stole a huge portion of his money. But Mike people, most people don't know Mike Tyson actually torched half a billion dollars and went broke and went broke.
And he did it. And he did it on purpose.
CALLER 1
Yeah, man, that's, that's the thing. Like, just go ahead there. The first, the first time I made, like, real money in my life back in 2021, just like a, a crazy sort of a whirlwind experience, you know what I mean? Where I just, like, ran out the mill with some of my friends I was doing a business with.
And like, the, the inner storm that kind of came with that, you know, Long story short, I basically torched all of that, you know what I mean? Went back to dead zero. And it was like, it was kind of an experience that I had to learn that I wanted to do that. You know what I mean?
Like, and kind of something you referenced earlier as well, about the, about the, any, anything that you fear the most as a man, you, you have to come in contact with that. I think part of it is that as well. It's like a part of me was like, wait, I'm scared to lose this. No, I have to lose it.
HOST
Well, well, but so the lesson in what you just told me and the lesson from what I was telling you about Iron Mike and all these other is, is, is this. It's that stagnation at any level is what kills you. So my point, My point is you can, you can reach the firmament and you can be as successful as you want, but if you stagnate up there, it's a level of misery that you don't.
CALLER 1
How do you, how do you not stagnate?
CALLER 4
That's the.
CALLER 1
I think that's the source of what I'm asking. Well, that you like.
HOST
Dude, that's the game of life is you never arrive, man. There's no, like, you always have to take on the next challenge. I mean, this is why I've, look, I've always flirted with juxtaposition because even when I've come into the most royal fortunes in my life, I never coasted. That's when I would train even harder.
That's when I would go. I would go. I would do two a days in the gym. Like when I, when I was worth eight figures, I was doing two a days.
I was still snatching £300. I was betting millions of dollars I'd work on my athleticism. There's always the next challenge. And I think a lot of people want to get rich to make their life easier, but you should actually want to get rich to make your life harder.
Yeah, your life should be getting more, your life should be getting more challenging as you get older, in my opinion.
CALLER 1
Yeah, that's a fact. I think, I think that's a fact. And I think you just made me realize it is. There's some inner complacency and maybe a bit of it is fear as well.
Like you, you said this earlier as well. The when is going in your favor. There's something scary about that because you're like, oh, if this keep on going in my favor, you know, like, maybe it's sort of a self sabotage type of thing.
HOST
So look, let me, let me, let me, let me give you some more wisdom about how life works, especially for men. There's a lot of, if you look at the common consensus on Twitter, especially amongst, like the younger ecom guys, they'll tell you, wake up every day, grind, dial in your routine, work hard, put on your hoodie, sit at the laptop, carve out hours, put in the time. That's literally horrendous advice. Okay, Yeah, I know that 90 of the time.
As a man, you're actually languishing. You're actually just toiling, kind of just floundering, kind of like not knowing what the going on. And then the 10 of success for all men comes from just that dead sprint where, like, you just leave it all on the line. Like, I'm not joking you.
You can grind every day all you want throughout the course of a full calendar year. You're only. The only spurts of gains and momentum you're really going to make is in about 10 of those margins is where you're really gonna. All your firepower is going to empty anyway.
So it's like, as a man, you're really just kind of toiling all the time, and you have to get comfortable with that. And then one day, you just kind of find a nook and cranny and you find an exploit, and that's when you just empty the clip. You know what I mean? Like, you just leave nothing in the chamber.
You expend everything you got and then you hit the reward.
CALLER 1
Yeah, for sure. No, that. That's. That's.
That. That's a bullseye right there, man. That's. That's the real, like, success.
HOST
Yeah, like, success is not supposed to be happening every day.
CALLER 1
Yeah, of course.
HOST
Like, I don't know. I don't know what the people are thinking. Like, people are.
CALLER 1
It's like the thing that I said.
HOST
Yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo. Don't. Don't interrupt me when I'm talking. What I'm saying is, is that people equate.
Look, the. The biggest function, the biggest reason why people genuinely want success is because they equate success with changing the way they feel. They fundamentally believe if they have money, women, a machine gun, and a Lambo, that they're just gonna feel good all the time. And what I'm.
What I'm telling people, and I'm tickling the underbelly of the beast when I say this is. I'm telling people. You don't want to feel good all the time. That is a level of hell that you actually don't even want to go through.
Look at, like, Dan Bilzerian. Dan Bilzerian has come out and said he unwove the pleasure mechanism so bad that now he's in almost like a permanently desponded state. He. He broke something in himself.
He's never going to give back. It's like, dude, you don't want that. You don't want that. And look, it's.
All my theories get confirmed with this. When people take trt, when people take steroids, when people take supplements, when people are obsessed about this shit, I'm telling you, what they're really doing is they want to change the way they feel. They think, oh, if I get on trt, I'm going to feel, feel good. And somehow by feeling good, everything else in my life is going to fall in place.
And that is a lie for sure.
CALLER 1
I. That. That's 100, man. Can I.
Let me ask, like you said, obviously, people want. They chase success to feel good. What, what would you say you chase successful? Like, what is the, what is the point that you see behind it then?
HOST
Dude, as a man, you chase success for the sake of the function. No, not even for the sake of it. For having more control over your life, because power you seek, you beseech, power as a man, because it just gives you more control over your life. And having control over your life is a phenomenal place to be.
And you can be miserable in that state. Heavy is the head that wears the crown. Being the king, being the emperor ain't fun, like I said. But you also, of course, it's about agency.
Fundamentally, that's what it is. It's, it's, it's just not being a leaf in the wind, being kicked around.
CALLER 1
Yeah, I got you. Yeah, that's real. Yeah, true. That is what it is.
It's about, as a man, like you said, creating your truth. Being able to say this and that, be what happens. That is, that's the whole point of it, right?
HOST
Being able to say you did it.
CALLER 1
Yeah, yeah, man, I appreciate that. You've, you've, you've cleared up a lot of for me. You're. You're a wise guy for sure, man.
HOST
What's up, Sean?
CALLER 2
Hey, what's up, bro? Yo, so my girlfriend is eight months pregnant right now. And I was talking, I was telling her last night, the same you were saying just in the beginning of the space how like these women have super up pregnancies where they're like, hair's falling out, they're getting gestational diabetes, all this up. And I was just telling her, like, hey, that's nature's way probably saying that this shit is not meant to be, you know, this is not meant to be.
And modern medicine is just so advanced now that we're just gonna allow, you know, everyone to have this baby and have this child when you Know, back then it'd probably be like, kill off the. The women or the child in some way, but, you know. Yeah, you know, I'm 23, she's eight months. And we just wanted to know, like, based on your experience, if you have any advice for how to.
How to go about my life while also like, pursuing my purpose and everything, with this baby on the way, I
HOST
have zero advice for you. That'd be a huge disservice. That's the whole point, man, is once that baby comes out, the instincts kick in and you just know what to do. You know what I mean?
Like, I didn't. I'm not. I didn't send my girl to Lamaze classes. I orchestrate.
Look, I've taken two women through pregnancies at this point, okay, all the way through A to Z. I designed the entire pregnancy. And let me tell you something. There was no morning sickness.
There was none of the old wives tale they tell you about. How about how troublesome pregnancy is because their nutrition was on point, I had them on a rigorous regimen and it was a pleasure. There was zero issues. No pain, no suffering.
It was a very, very easy thing. And that's my point is like, anyone who's hat struggling in these domains is just out of touch with their instincts. Like, as a dad, when my first son was born, it was. The next move was just easy.
You just listen to your body. Like, adapting to what they need is just so simple, man. There's no. There's no.
There's no intellect. There's no intellectualization behind it at all.
CALLER 2
Yeah, bro, like, yeah, sure.
HOST
So I urge you, I urge you to just lean into those instincts, which will kick in hard, by the way. You're like a predator. And by the way, when women are pregnant, they're killers too. Like, their heightened awareness is absurd.
CALLER 2
Oh, for sure, bro. Like, she's changed so much, especially now that she's like eight months. And I feel like those instincts are kind of like already kicking in because the baby's like formed already, you know, and she's just. Just getting to the point where that baby's just packing on the pounds and getting ready to shoot out.
HOST
But yeah, it's like beautiful stuff, man.
CALLER 2
Yeah, man, it's like. And she's had a super smooth pregnancy. No sickness, no nothing. And I'm like, hey, like, you got with a good one, so.
HOST
But right on, brother.
CALLER 2
Yeah, I appreciate that, man.
CALLER 1
So.
HOST
Of course, bro.
CALLER 1
Yep.
HOST
See? Tons of new faces. This is good. Yo, Matt Hawkins.
What's up, bro? What's up, brute?
CALLER 6
So you said in that first question that as a man, you'll always make your worst fear come true or you're always going to come face to face with it. How do you prevent yourself from making that worst fear from coming true? Or how do you deal with it when you come face to face with it?
HOST
Dude, you don't want. You don't want to prevent it. That's why like when people talk about the advice of facing your fears, that's nonsense. You don't ever have to face a fear directly.
You'll face it obliquely. As you're going through life, you're naturally going to come across the things that scare you. Like there's. You don't have to do these surrogate measures is what I'm trying to say.
Like, will have a fear of heights and they feel like they got to go jump out of an airplane brain nonsense. Like you don't people you. You can't. Life is weird, man.
You can't even. Sometimes you can't even attack the direct experience head on. Like, everything is lateral. Everything is about moving up the ladder.
And then you just kind of gather experience and you accrue wisdom and you accrue knowledge and you accrue weapons along the way. It's just kind of how it works. It's like, it's very weird like that, dude. Like nothing can really be attacked head on.
Like even, even, even in like the pickup game. Okay, like this is actually a really good example. Are like, because the average man is terrified of female beauty, right? The average man is severely intimidated by a very gorgeous woman.
They freeze, they mumble, they stutter their words. And when they talk to a beautiful woman. But here's the deal. You could do 5, 000 cold approaches to try to remove that mechanism.
And you're gonna. You're never gonna get there doing cold approaches. You know how you smash the out of your intimidation of female beauty by being the best at your craft. Like if you just become the best at what you're doing, there's a.
There's just a confidence that kind of settles on you to where you just kind of wake up one day and you're like, female beauty? What the fuck is that? Like, that shit pales in comparison to the talent and skills that I got. You know what I'm saying?
Like, women should be terrified of my talent. It's not the other way around. You should be fucking terrified that I'm so goddamn good at what I do. I don't give a how you look and that's how it works.
And so it's like, there you go. You conquered your fear of women just by being the best at what you do. And you did it laterally. It was an accident.
CALLER 6
Right?
HOST
And that just kind of magically goes away. Like that's where confidence comes from, man. You think? I mean, yes, some of these billionaires are nerds, but you think these guys who become the best at what they do, you think they give a flying if a woman's a 10?
They're not stuttering their words. They didn't do cold approaches. They went a completely different path. Many things in life are like that.
That's cosmic wisdom.
CALLER 6
Okay. So it's normal to come in contact with them. And coming in contact with those fears just gives you experience, right?
HOST
Or you just level up so hard that those fears just kind of magically get diminished anyway. Which is the best route. Like, I don't. I cannot tell you any fears that I felt compelled to attack directly.
Most of the things I feared when I was a child just magically went away when I got really good at what I do.
CALLER 6
Okay. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I appreciate it.
HOST
Of course. Brandon. Tracy. What's up, bro?
CALLER 2
Oh, hey.
HOST
Let me interrupt the spaces. I have some news to report. So that in person event that I did sold out less than 24 hours. All those spots are gone.
Do not DM me about it. However, I am releasing a two month program that is absolutely going to be dope as so I'm basically releasing a two month in depth program. It's a private community that I'm starting where basically I wanted you to think of it as almost like a supplemental curriculum. It's going to be a very, very deep dive into my uncensored, unvarnished philosophy.
The that I cannot say on Twitter. The that would get me clapped. Like my real viewpoints on you have to imagine are a lot more hardcore than what I can even say out of spaces. So we're going to do private spaces.
It's going to be very intimate because I want to get to know, I want to have relationships and get to know every single person who joins this community. But this community is going to be launching later this afternoon. There's going to be a link on my page and it's going to be first come, first serve. And I think I'm taking 50 spots for this two month program and we're going to take a very, very deep dive and it's going to be a blast.
So be on the lookout later. This afternoon for this program that I'm dropping. Who did I call up here? Oh, he dropped off.
Let's get Mr. John archer. And by the way, this community, I'm specifically designing it to make it as unhomified as possible. I know these discord groups and can get really gay.
There's going to be no bots, there's going to be no ghost writers. Like I am going to be at the helm imparting the lessons myself. John, what's up bro?
CALLER 3
Brute.
HOST
How's it going man? What's up, bro? I'm just rolling a sig. Entertain us.
CALLER 3
You're good. I'm lighting one up right now too. So. I mean you talk about like dulling your edge, right?
I found that if I'm in a rut, if I'm just not pushing the ball forward, not to movement, my first
CALLER 1
instinct is to, is to book a
CALLER 3
flight to get right. You want to talk a little bit just about like changing your environment, Changing what you're round, maybe like the, the people, just your day to day actions. How much is like changing up what you're doing? Just doing like a 180 almost.
How much does that make an impact for you?
HOST
So I think in, I think in some circles they call this pulling a geographic. I'm not a huge fan, believe it or not. I think everywhere you go, you're with you. And I think that you can change your environment every which way.
I, I do believe in sticking your flag in your own soil and kind of dealing with the issues that are at hand without changing locations. That's been a lot more powerful for me personally than just getting fed up and just bouncing, bouncing to different territory.
CALLER 3
And is it because you'd rather just face that on knowing you're in? Like knowing you can handle it anywhere?
HOST
Because what it is for me is. Yeah, go ahead, go ahead.
CALLER 3
I'm just saying for me, when I get around new places, it's almost like I'm put, like I'm putting something into the universe, right. I'm like putting action in. Even if it's just getting out and going somewhere else. It feels like that's moving the ball to where other things are coming to.
Me, I, I started tracking things.
HOST
Fair enough. I mean it's somewhat of a hunter's mentality. I understand that. Like if you're hunting buffalo and buffalo scarce go find it.
I get that. For me, I just, I have a need to kind of conquer whatever territory I'm in before I move on. Like when I come into a city now with the experience that I have, it's very, very easy for me to nestle in and, and move to the top pretty quickly. I did it in la.
There was a time period in LA where I had a ton of power. I could get in anywhere at any time. 2 o' clock in the morning, didn't matter. I had that place on lock. And then I went to Scottsdale and I did the same thing.
You know what I'm saying? Like, when I walk in the streets in Scottsdale, I got coming up and shaking my hand like I'm the mayor. And so, yeah, I mean, I, I think that when you get to a city, you definitely have to have a feeling that's your local community. But if that's a challenge for you, I think that you do need to establish turf.
I just think it's really, really important to establish turf and conquer a domain before you move on.
CALLER 3
Yeah, yeah, no, I definitely agree. I'm not, I'm not saying like, avoid it or not go there. I'm more saying bounce out, leave for a week or two and then come back.
HOST
That definitely makes sense to me. I. With it. Okay, cool, cool.
CALLER 3
Yeah, I just gotta say too, like, there's so many things you say where it's just so spot on. Where it's like, this is like speaking to me. I think that's testament. Like, obviously you see everybody in this, in this space.
It's like a lot of this stuff is anecdotal and the haters hate that, but it's so real and it's backed up by this just constant community of everybody who's kind of on the same page. It's pretty crazy.
HOST
Appreciate you, bro. Thanks, brother.